Written by Debra Beck
I can’t remember ever liking my body. My poor body, the judgment it must feel.“You’re not skinny enough, you’re not tone enough, not tall enough, not shapely enough, your stomach is poochy”. Hearing these words every time I walk by a mirror, trying on cloths, looking at the models in magazines, it’s enough to make my body want to run and hide. Run and hide away from me, because I am the one with all of the judgments. It appears as if the judgments are coming from the outside, but I am the one letting them in and confirming them.
Picture a young child with someone she really loves, and now picture this person saying these harsh words: “You’re not skinny enough, you’re not tone enough, not tall enough, not shapely enough.” OUCH! These thoughts and words hurt. Imagine how this child would feel. The feelings she might feel could be unimportance, worthlessness, loneliness, shame and embarrassment.
Can you imagine having a child and making her feel this way? Of course not, so why is okay to make yourself feel this way? We need to treat ourselves like our own little girl. Handle her with care.
Loving my body is something I work on everyday. I do this by first realizing that my body is a gift, a beautiful gift to get me around for my stay on this Earth. I have to have an understanding that it needs to be healthy and strong for this stay, not be prettier than other girls to do this job. I also need to realize that judging my body does not make my body prettier or make me feel better about myself; it only damages my self-esteem.
So, what is it that we need to do to love our bodies and not judge them? Here are a few tips to help you create or maintain a healthy body image:
- Know that real beauty comes from the inside. What makes you shine comes from who you are, not what you look like.
- Appreciate your body for carrying you through this journey on Earth, praise your body for what it can do- walk, run, sing, laugh, play sports. I could go on and on.
- Embrace those parts of your body that you don’t like; tell them everyday you love them. Like you would if you had a daughter with something she disliked about herself, you would try to strengthen the parts she disliked.
- Focus on what you love about yourself, not what you don’t like.
- Don’t bad talk yourself; keep your thoughts about yourself positive.
- Take care of yourself, eat healthy, exercise and do nice things for yourself; read a book, relax, take a bath, pamper yourself.
- Be around people that treat you well and like you for who you are.
- Don’t feel like you have to follow the fads- dress the way you want to make you feel good about your body.
- Don’t buy into the media telling you your body has to look a certain way to be attractive.
Every time someone or something (TV) says something negative about your body or someone else’s, just have a mantra “I love myself just the way I am, and I am perfect.”
And don’t forget to participate in our poll on our home page in the right-side column! “There is at least one thing about myself I want to change: Yay or Nay?” We want to hear your opinion!