Written by Mary Kornegay, Relate Contributing Writer

Do you facebook stalk as much as we do?

Gray, 15, Charlotte, NC. “Not really. The only reason I have my facebook is to keep up with friends and events. I mean it’s cool if a girl ‘stalks’ me, but I’m not on facebook 24/7 checking up on people. I hardly ever look at other peoples’ pages.”

What is with the lack of hygiene?

Andrew Shuester, 20, Kernersville, NC. “Hey, I resent that. I smell great. No, really, I just don’t wake up and think ‘Oh, I’m going to class. I need to look my best.’ On the other hand, I enjoy looking nice. So usually if I’m not kempt and looking fly, it’s because I didn’t have time or had better things to do.”

Intelligence or Looks?

Jeff St. John, 21, Charlotte, NC. “I definitely like smart girls. But I’m not going to lie. Looks matter. I don’t think I’m shallow, but I like pretty girls, too. I guess in the end, intelligence reigns. I don’t want to introduce a girl to my mom who can’t keep up a conversation, even if she is gorgeous.”

Most girls are attached to their phones. If a guy doesn’t text you back, is it possible he just doesn’t have his phone?

Stephen, 18. “I never have my phone with me. I hate it when my girlfriend gets mad at me because I don’t have it, but sometimes I just don’t want to carry it around. And it isn’t because I don’t want to talk to you.”

Why can’t you just tell me what you’re feeling?

Henry, 17, New York. “Most guys don’t wear their hearts on their sleeves. Gender stereotypes suck, but it’s lame if a guy is overly emotional. When I really get to know a girl, I tend to open up more, but it’s hard to just say everything I’m feeling.”

What if I’m shy? How can I get your attention without looking desperate?

Jamie Wheeler, 19. “I personally don’t like over the top girls. They are just doing it to get attention. If a girl is nice and confident, I’ll notice them. They don’t have to throw themselves at me for me to see them. That is a real turn off.”

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