Whatever stage of education you are at you will be discovering new parts of who you are and feeling a rainbow of emotions about friendships, boys and family. When you were young your parents probably taught you how important it was to play nicely with other children and to include everyone in your games or conversations, but did they tell you the importance of the girl code.
This article isn’t just for the young women out there, share it with the boys and spread the word because the girl code is going to affect them too.
You may have seen the urban dictionary version of girl code, or watched the film, but advice like ‘never hit on your best friends ex’ isn’t exactly going to break any walls in a strong women uprising. We are focussing on the big stuff here. The things which really matter.
First of all let’s discuss the inevitability of a fall out in your circle of friends. One thing that women shouldn’t do is beat each other down. Yes, we all have off days. Mornings when we wake up crazy and we aren’t going to shake that off all day. You know you are going to bite a head of in class or take a text the wrong way. Whilst you always need to be aware of yourself, part of the code is awareness for your sisters. Learn to realize that a difference of opinion is not as important as a friendship. Accept there may be reasons behind an attitude that you don’t understand. Empathize don’t argue. When your girls get crazy, you need to pull together even more. Never take it online. Change the subject by discussing interesting topics. Divert the attention from your friend. Offer a shoulder and support. Without question.
Judgement day. Women get judged all day every day. We are objectified throughout our childhood and even more so in our adult life. Most of this comes from men and whilst that is bad enough it is vital that YOU do not ever let this kind of judgement come from our team. Looking at another girl and rolling your eyes because she doesn’t wear the right clothes or she acts a little different to you, calling out the geeky looking sister who spends her lunchtimes in the library is just as bad as a guy laughing at you when you say you want to play soccer. There is a real fashion on social media for girls to break down other girls and this is worse than friendly fire. We are stronger together, fighting for the right to not be judged simply due to our gender. How can we fight for that if we are throwing little bombs into our own camp?
There are loads of rules in the girl code, but the most important ones are those which focus on supporting the sisterhood and ensuring we step out together to an equal future with the boys. So, stand strong ladies and get ready to go into battle!