It’s hard to not be at least a little obsessed with guys. After all, we are wired to fantasize about the perfect guy who will sweep us off our feet. We keep a realistic and appropriate perspective on guys and give you advice that you will actually want to follow. Because it isn’t all about sex, we help your guy relationships stay safe and FUN!
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How to Accomplish Saying No
Date: 18 Jan 2012
How to Accomplish Saying No
by Joanna Paula L. Cailas
There I was fervently babbling about Holy Will and divine intervention and mercy and grace, praying for my crush. Only when I’m back home do I whack my forehead and think O Godric, I didn’t even pray for my asthmatic brother! That’s how forgetful emotion can make you. And if you’re not convinced, just check any statistic record of how many people kill because of rage and how many people both make love and kill because of, well, love.
We’re surrounded by media that more or less suggests that sex is part of life’s fun, and fun is never prohibited, right?
We are advised to say no, but while there are steps for saying no to drugs, cigarettes and booze, what about saying no to premarital sex?
We’re not little animals here, so I won’t talk about hormones as if we’re little mousies responding to our genetic make-up. When you think about it, or when you are asked, you definitely wouldn’t say it was hormones that made you kiss your first boy/girlfriend. How totally unromantic. No, you laid your lips on his/hers because s/he was making your heart pound so much at that moment you just had to make him/her know you were lovestruck and actions always yell better than words.
It’s not hormones. It’s our emotions. ‘Your love’, to speak romantically. Understanding this makes it easier to take action, and makes us responsible because we can always do something about what we feel. Like when I feel I’m about to punch my brother. I take a deep breath and count to three. No, ten. No, twenty.
Dieting—no sweet shop. Dating—no closeted space where emotions can cage us. We go to malls. Or resorts, or restaurants. Not to cabins in the woods unless it’s a camping party. No at-homes when it’s home-alone.
Another tip. When cuddling too closely and kissing too deeply and fondling too intimately, put a name to the deed. This alleviates the mood somewhat and toggles the switch from heart to mind mode. In those low books that would make Vatsayana blush, it’s never, ‘They sat down on the couch and began necking.’ Instead, it’s a detailed account of sensations and feelings. So stop feeling and start thinking and voice the thought. “Isn’t this necking? Shouldn’t we stop?” That’s like saying, ‘Isn’t this a match? Are we allowed to play with it?’ There will be laughter (Thanks, Captain Obvious!), maybe a scowl (Spoilsport!), but no fire.
Next time, I’ll think I’m mooning over my crush instead of thinking the universe was conspiring to get us together. Then maybe I’ll remember to pray for my more urgent petitions.
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Date: 31 Jan 2011
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Your Love Life and Facebook are in a Relationship and It’s Complicated
Date: 19 Jan 2011
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