Boy Oh Boy!

It’s hard to not be at least a little obsessed with guys. After all, we are wired to fantasize about the perfect guy who will sweep us off our feet. We keep a realistic and appropriate perspective on guys and give you advice that you will actually want to follow. Because it isn’t all about sex, we help your guy relationships stay safe and FUN!

The Golden Rules Of ANY Breakup


When you’re young, you think that love will last forever. And, it does in some cases, but they are the relationship anomalies that prove the rule. Unfortunately, relationships at a young age don’t aren’t everlasting, which means a breakup in on the cards. If you have never been through one before, you might not know what to say or how to act. Obviously, it’s a painful experience that you don’t want to make harder by being awkward. So, with that in mind, here are a few universal rules that work for any and every breakup.

Decide Whether It’s The Right Decision

You know how it is when you’re young. Everything can seem like a big deal, and that can lead to rash decisions. For example, you might see your fella talking to another girl. Although it makes you feel bad, it isn’t reason enough to give them their marching orders. Instead, you just need to talk and vocalize your feelings so that they understand your position. According to www.hookupfaq.com, winning back your ex is possible, but it isn’t necessary in the first place if the split is purely cosmetic. If it feels right, rip off the band-aid, but only if it isn’t fixable.

Don’t Backslide

Once you make a final decision, you have to stick with it. Otherwise, the emotions you work so hard to get over will come flooding back. Backsliding is a familiar ritual for almost every newly single couple. After all, it’s easy because there are zero surprises. But, it only makes life harder in the long run. Although it’s harder and much scarier, you have to break the chain forever and find new people. So, delete their number from your phone and block them on Facebook. It’s harsh but necessary.

Don’t Be Friends

At least, don’t be friends just yet says www.collegetimes.com. There might be a time in the future when you can look back and laugh but not isn’t that time. At the moment, you have too much on your plate. You’re trying to deal with new emotions and get to a certain place in your life where you feel healthy. Clearly, that is an almost impossible goal to hit if you’re trying to be friends. There is no need not to be civil, but going out for coffee is a bit of a stretch.

Focus On Other Things

Relationships take up a huge part of your life, and a breakup can leave a hole. Now, you might want to fill it again with love, yet that isn’t always the best option. Sometimes, it is good to give love a wide berth and come back to it further down the line. In the meantime, you can concentrate on things like your social life and your friends. Being in a relationship means that it’s hard to maintain all of your friendships, especially the ones that were so strong in the past. Now is the time to go back and cultivate them again. After all, you need a strong support base anytime a relationship ends.

A breakup is never pretty, so good luck.



Why You Should Embrace Singledom


It’s always a tough one when we are back on the dating pile. After all, as well as having to get over your ex, you are now have to accept you’re single again. This can be tricky when friends around you are all loved up. And it can lead girls to feel low that they are on their own. But singledom doesn’t have to be the end of the world. In fact, here are some reasons why you should embrace singledom!

You can do things for yourself

When we are in a relationship, a lot of our time is spent with our other half. And rather than doing things for yourself, it tends to be about them. But it means you are not getting to do things you really love. And you might not be getting to make the most of experiences like going out while at college. Also, a lot of girls put their buddies on the backburner while they spend time with their man. Therefore, now you have entered single life, you can start doing things you really want to do again. Join that class you have fancied for ages. And go on nights out with the other freshers to get to know people. You might even want to organize a trip during the summer with your buddies. After all, these is nothing better than getting away in the sun with your friends!

You can go on many dates with different guys

While being loved up in a relationship can be amazing, it means you are stuck with just one guy. And it means you are not getting to meet other dudes who could be the right one for you. While dating can be stressful, it can actually be a lot of fun. After all, not are you only getting to learn about these new men, but you get to go on a wealth of fun dates too. And a lot of the time, you won’t have to even pay to enjoy activities like dining in fab restaurants and heading to the movies. And while you feel like you need to call a psychic hotline to see if love is ahead with one of these fellas, you should just embrace the time dating. After all, what is the rush to settle down when you are getting to enjoy a wealth of exciting dates!

You might not be single for long

A lot of us fear that we will be single forever after a relationship ends. But it’s most likely that you will meet someone around the corner. And then you will be tied down in a relationship. Therefore, you should embrace singledom as it doesn’t come round very often! Therefore, don’t spend your time in singledom feeling blue. Go out and enjoy yourself while you are on your own. Spend some quality time with your besties. After all, you might barely see each other now you are all busy with work or college! And spend time with your own family. After all, when you are with someone else, you have to split time between both sets of ‘rents. So take the time to enjoy spending time with just your family while you’re single!

And a lot of people say being single is the happiest time of their life!

 



Dealing With Addiction After You Start Dating


In the first few months of a relationship, couples go through the honeymoon phase. There are actual physiological changes in the brain that intensify favorable feelings towards a new partner. Even if something seems slightly off, it’s easy to overlook when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses. But as you begin to settle into the relationship and you both let your guard down, you may begin to see things you didn’t notice before.

This is often the case when a person has an alcohol or drug addiction. Many addicts are ashamed of their addiction and will go to great lengths to hide it from a new partner. They may even keep entire segments of their life secret to prevent a new partner from catching on to their addiction.

When you’re out of the honeymoon phase, you’re less likely to convince yourself that everything is fine when it isn’t. For some the natural instinct is to cut ties before there’s more emotional investment. But what if you’re willing to help your new partner get past their addiction? How can a couple cope with addiction without the relationship falling apart?

Carefully Consider Rehab

Rehab isn’t always the first step, but the health experts at Sandysplace.com note that it is an important one on the road to recovery. Their facility specializes in helping women overcome addiction by offering a variety of in-patient and out-patient programs.

Often people need professional help getting over an addiction. The extent of their addiction and how it’s impacting their quality of life should help guide you towards the best rehab program. Another factor is the person’s living and working environments. Getting over an addiction is much harder if a person is around drugs and alcohol on a regular basis.

Have an Open, Honest Conversation While They’re Sober

Addiction is something that will make many people leave a relationship because it’s not an easy problem to fix. However, most couples try to work through it together before coming to that conclusion.

The first thing you should do if you suspect your new partner may have a drug and/or alcohol addiction is to talk to them. Wait until they are sober to have the conversation, or it could end up being more destructive than productive.

Discuss your concerns and feelings, but avoid passing judgment, which may make your partner defensive. Let your partner know that your main priority is helping them get past addiction and on the road to recovery. Ask them how you can help and show initiative to live up to your promise right away.

Keep in mind that addiction isn’t something that’s easy for people to talk about. Often it’s connected to psychological distress that could be the result of a traumatizing event in their past.

Set Boundaries

If your partner is receptive and open to addressing their addiction, you’ll need to set boundaries. Setting boundaries is beneficial for several reasons:

  • It provides a consequence for your partner.
  • It prevents you from being taken advantage of.
  • It helps you avoid being an enabler.
  • It helps you maintain your self-respect.
  • You’ll avoid compromising your principles and prior decisions.

Boundaries are your way of gaining a bit of control over the situation. Make the boundaries directly related to their drug and alcohol use. For example, one boundary can be if your partner has been drinking or using drugs they can’t come to your house. These consequences may be hard to bear yourself, but healthy boundaries help people curb addiction and protect relationships.

Enlist the Help of Other Loved Ones

Since your relationship is new it may be beneficial to enlist the help of other loved ones that your significant other is close to and respects. Talk to the other loved ones about your concerns and the behavior you’ve observed. If they’ve had the same thoughts and concerns see how you can work together to help your partner.

Friends can help steer your partner to healthier activities and keep them out of trouble. Parents can agree to help get your partner professional help and set boundaries of their own so they don’t become enablers.

The main objective is to coordinate your efforts so your partner has a strong support system all around.

 



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