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Keep Those Standards High!
Date: 2 Feb 2010
I have really high standards for guys. I want a boyfriend that could essentially become my husband. I want him to be a gentleman, a christian, smart, funny, athletic… I have a whole long list. Are my standards too high??
-Miss Selective
RelateMag:
No, no, no, no, no! No, your standards are not too high! In fact, I give you major props for setting such high standards! It is very important for a girl to establish what it is she wants in a guy and then to stick to it. Oftentimes, a girl will want a boyfriend so bad that she will compromise what she truly wants, and in the long run she ends up hurt and unhappy. Waiting for the perfect guy to come along in much better in the long run.
A boyfriend is a serious thing, even for girls that are into casual dating. Boyfriends and the way they treat you help shape who you are and how you view guys as an adult. Boyfriends are also many times responsible for convincing girls to do more physical things than a girl is ready for. Not enough can be said for making sure that any guy a girl dates 100% meets her standards–and those standards should be set high. Now, if a girl were to set standards on superficial things, like the way a guy looks, the car he drives, where he lives, etc. that would be a different story. But, we are talking about real standards about the character of a guy. The standards you set are actually at the core of who you are and what make you, you.
The funny thing about standards is that they always get met–just not always in our timing. God has put those standards on your heart and given you the wisdom to realize their importance. They are not to be taken lightly! God has your future husband already picked out for you, and guess what? He meets all of your standards!
And one more thing to think about…would it really be fair to a guy that doesn’t meet your standards, that you know won’t be right for you, to date him? This guy could totally fall for you and all along you know he isn’t the one. So, while you must be fair to yourself, you must also be fair to the guys. And settling or compromising isn’t fair to them because you know it won’t last. Playing with someone’s emotions or using them to meet a temporary need is not the right thing to do.
Just remember that finding the perfect guy is not an easy task. You must be patient and wait for God’s timing. He will connect you with the right guy for you and you will be glad you didn’t compromise. In the meantime, be happy being single and watch and learn from the couples around you (young and old). Mr. Perfect is in your future!
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