Fly The Nest Without Forgetting Your Family

Getting a house of their own is the primary goal for many young adults. Life doesn’t feel like it’s begun until you’re out of the family home and embarking on your journey. Education is out the way, and moving into your own home is a sure sign that you’re ready for adulthood.

But, as excited as you are, it’s important to note that your parents are probably feeling pretty glum. You may have spent the past five years dreaming of this, but the chances are they’ve spent even longer dreading it. Despite the odd threat to throw you out along the way, they probably  love having you around. They’ve dedicated years to your wellbeing. So, take a step back and imagine how difficult it’s going to be for them when you leave.

The good news is, there are steps you can take to lessen the blow. And, though that may not seem like a priority to you right now, you’ll regret neglecting this issue down the line. Your parents, after all, are always going to be in your life. Your new home should never come between you. And, to help ensure your flying the nest doesn’t flatten them, we’re going to look at what those steps are.

Include them in your moving preparations

The most basic thing you can do is include your parents while you’re preparing to move. If you’ve already lived away at college, you may feel you can do all this stuff alone. But, taking the time to invite them along to shopping trips and viewings will make a huge difference. They’ll feel included in the process, and therefore much more at ease with what’s happening. This will also ensure your leaving doesn’t hit as hard when it happens. Plus, having them along for the ride could make things easier for you. If this is your first proper move, it’ll help to have someone around who’s been where you are.

Spend time with them before you go


The chances are that you have a lot on your plate, what with arranging deposits and sorting moving dates. Not to mention that you have to face the mammoth task of packing. But, it’s crucial you carve some time out of your schedule to spend time with your parents. Arrange a meal out together during your last week at home. And, take the time to go and sit with them of an evening, even if it’s only for half an hour. This small effort will make a huge difference, and you’ll be glad you did it once you’ve moved out.

Buy them a parting gift

The chances are that leaving day is going to get pretty teary as it is. And, yes, buying leaving gifts for your parents will only make things worse. But, it’ll also reassure your parents that you care and that you aren’t going to disappear from their lives. You could even make these presents activities which you can take part in. Why not book a spa day for you and your mom? And, options like these gifts for men who have everything are sure to provide you and your dad with some quality time. It’s also worth writing them a small note to go alongside their gifts. Say thank you for everything they’ve done for you over the years. They have, after all, housed and fed you for your entire life. And, while it can often be embarrassing to address, now is the ideal time to do it.

Make a plan to see them regularly

We all know what it’s like when you’re starting a new life; you just want to put the old one behind you already. But, before you go, make a set plan of contact with your parents. If you aren’t moving far away, you could arrange to come round once a week for dinner. If you’re moving too far for that to possible, organize a date in the future when you’ll see each other. And, make a set time and day for weekly phone calls. These plans will give your parents something to look forward to and will make things much easier. And, though you might not expect it, having plans like these could also prove a real source of comfort for you. Because, as exciting as moving away is, it can also hit hard once you’re far from home, and on your own. Knowing that you’ll talk to your parents in a few days will be enough to see you through.

Don’t Be Afraid To Claim What You’re Entitled To!

Being a part of the younger generation shouldn’t be a reason for you not to take the necessary steps to ensuring that your health stays at it’s best. Not just your health either, your quality of life is important too. You may be under the impression that because you’re younger that your claim won’t be taken as seriously.

Health

Taking out health insurance should be the first step you take to make sure that if something happens, you’re covered. Even though it might be an expense that you don’t want to be paying at the moment, it will pay off if you become ill or injured. Imagine being landed with massive health bills and not being able to pay it? Having insurance will make sure that you don’t have to experience that. Don’t forget that keeping yourself fit in general is important to avoid you having to make any claims too.

Did you know that when you’re at work, if you get injured or ill because of work that you’re entitled to claim from their worker’s compensation? If you’ve been incorrectly trained on machinery, or the machines you’re using are fault and you become injured while using them, then you’re eligible to claim. You also have the right to claim without any grudges being held by your employers too.

Even if your injury leaves you disabled, you still have the right to return to your job if you want to, and claim compensation. However, if your claim is dismissed for any reason and you know that you’re entitled to claim, consider hiring a workmans comp attorney who will reopen your case. They normally offer a service where if they don’t win the case that you don’t have to pay any fees, so it’s definitely worth thinking about.

Education

If you’re still in education, did you know that you can claim back up to $2500 on tuition fees for your first four years of education after high school? This has been put in place to help you pay for books for the course you’re studying and other equipment you may need. If you’re earning less than $80,000 and are claiming as a single person, you could get up to $1000 back on your annual tax refund.

Of course, if you’re earning a good wage then it’s unlikely that you will be entitled to claim anything back, but if you’re unsure it’s always best to check to see if you’re eligible to make a claim. If you’re still living with your parents, they might be able to claim some sort of refund too, so get them to check it out to make their lives easier.

As you can see, there are a few things here that you’re entitled to that you might not already be doing. Make sure you’re claiming everything to can to make your life as a college student easier.

It’s Time To Take Charge Of Your Life!

When you’re a kid, it’s easy to feel as though everyone else is in charge of you. You’re told when to eat, when to sleep, who you can see, and where you can go. But when you’re a teenager, you’re right on the cusp of being a real adult, and it starts to feel like you have a lot more freedom over what you do. Now, this can be an amazing thing and something that a lot of teens spend their lives waiting for, but it can also be pretty intimidating. After all, for the first time in your life, you’re faced with the idea of actually having to make your own choices and be responsible for the consequences. It’s enough to make some people want to retreat to their rooms and go back to being a kid. Of course, you can’t go back, so here are some ways in which you can start taking charge of your own life.

Working

Once you’re old enough, there are few things more exciting than the idea of being able to start earning your own money! After all, do you really want to spend your life asking your parents for money every time you want to go to the movies? Of course not! However, finding work when you’re still young can be really tough. There are plenty of places that will hire you; they just might not be your dream job right now. That’s okay. The job that you have now won’t be the one you have forever, and it’s more about being able to enjoy the freedom that earning your own money provides than finding your lifetime career. Don’t put it off either, take 5 minutes to get started with your Subway application, or any other application that you can find, and get out into the working world! Sure, fast food places, retail stores, or restaurants might not be the most glamorous places in the world, but they help you gain that independence that is so important as you get older.

Studying

When you’re younger, you’ve often got teachers and parents staring down your neck all of the time in order to make sure that you’re pushing yourself as hard as possible and that you’re studying as much as you can. However, you’ll find that once you’re in college, that’s all going to change. When you’re in college, the only person who’s around to hold you accountable is, well, you! This is something that a lot of people struggle with at first because it’s something that they’re really not used to. Because of that, it’s important that you start being more independently motivated with your studies right now. Sure, you might still have your parents and teachers around right now, but if you can avoid leaning on them and push yourself forward independently then not only are your studies going to improve a lot, but you’re also going to be in a much better position to move onto a more independent stage in your life.

Deciding On A Career Once You Enter “The Real World”

It can feel rather patronizing when adults tell you throughout your life that you’ll understand things once you enter “the real world”. It’s important to remember that the things you’ve been learning throughout your education do help you in the real world far more than you may be led to believe by things you read or see in popular culture. It’s also important to remember that you don’t only have one path available to you. More importantly, you don’t have to stick with the first job you choose. This is a journey, and you need to learn about yourself; look at your skills, and apply them as you see fit. Here’s some inspiration to help you decide on a career whether you’ve just graduated or you’re graduating in a few years.

 

Think about what you want from your first job.

Don’t cave into pressure. When you graduate, some of your friends may find jobs instantly and others may be in the same boat as you: unsure of what they want or unable to find the right job for them. Don’t choose any old opportunity because you feel like you “should” have a job. Don’t settle just because you feel like you’re lucky to have been given any chance at all; you’ve just graduated, and you have a skill set for which most employers are desperate. Understand your worth, and take some time to think about what you want from a job. Make a list of your requirements.

 

There’s more to an industry than what you see on the surface.

This is a crucial piece of advice to take on board. You might have studied French but you don’t want to be a French teacher or Math but you don’t want to be a “boring” mathematician. In both cases, you’re only looking at the surface. Linguistic skills can be used with foreign relations in governments, and mathematical skills can be used in all manner of exciting careers. You might consider job sites which are recruiting for finance because the stereotype of working in a bank or calculating figures in a dull office cubicle are both only looking at aspects of the industry on a surface level. You could help with the financial aspects of an organization you care about deeply; perhaps there’s a charity or an ethical business which does work that means something to you.

So, if you have a mathematical brain, you don’t have to resign yourself to a dull office job because you feel like that’s what you “should” be doing; you could become a forensic analyst or conduct statistical tests for important government organizations. If you have a creative brain, you don’t have to resign yourself to a non-creative job because “there are no jobs for artists”; you could do graphical design for an advertising firm or write promotional material for a big business. There are so many levels to so many industries out there, but the search for that perfect position can only start with you actually searching.

 

Keep learning.

Never stop learning. This doesn’t mean you should go back to college, but you should always be developing your skills. Education was the first rung on the ladder, but there’s so much to learn out in the adult world. Soak up every skill you can from your first job, even if you know it’s not something you want to do forever. All experience is still experience. You’ll be surprised to see what you can learn even from being involved in an industry which you don’t want to be your future industry of employment.

Life Experiences That Will Make You A Better Adult

When you look at successful people – be it success in their careers, their relationships, or just a general serenity in their lives – it’s easy to wonder how they managed it. For many young people, the idea of adulthood is something that is terrifying. We may crave the ability to make our own way in the world, but who wants to saddle themselves with the responsibilities of what’s colloquially referred to as “adulting”?

It therefore makes sense to aim to be one of those people who seems to have got this whole life business sorted out. The question is – how did they get there?

There is a common thought in philosophy that we are all the product of our experiences. It is the things we live – rather than the basics that we are born with – that make our life what it is. There are things we can learn as we experience them; things we can do to prompt our minds’ to travel in the right direction. If you go through one of these experiences in your formative years, then it might just make a huge difference to how that adult life you both revere and fear comes to pass.

1) Travel

Traveling is not without its perils. It can be tiring, worrying, or just seem like a lot of effort. However, there is something about expanding your horizons that alters the way you see things when you come back home.

The experience you need to glean from traveling is not going to come from the seven-day beach holidays you may be accustomed to. Consider more “earthed” experiences like backpacking or taking part in mission trips for youth groups – something that gives you more of a chance of a genuine connection with the places you see, and the people you meet.

It’s also a good idea to travel away from the normal tourist traps. Experience a different part of the world, not the polished “for tourists” areas that have a ring of inauthenticity.

 

2) Go To Therapy

If you don’t have a particular problem, then the idea of therapy might seem like a strange one. However, sometimes the most productive therapeutic sessions come about when the patient doesn’t think they have anything to say – but it turns out, there’s a river of thoughts they need to dissect and discuss.

Therapy doesn’t have to be about fixing a problem. It can be about helping you on your journey in the best way possible. It provides a neutral perspective on the things you experience and can help you get the most out of them, as well as helping you over any of the blips on the road.

 

3) Learn For The Sake Of Learning

As a young adult, you might feel you have had your fill of learning. Up until this point, your life has been about mandatory attendance and learning about subjects you might have no interest in.

As an adult, it’s hugely beneficial to be curious and want to continue to learn. The brilliant part of this is that you can choose your subject. It could just be falling into a Wikipedia clickhole and discovering a new passion, but always keep your mind open to new information to get the best out of life.

 

In Your 20s? Life Lessons You Should Remember To Squeeze The Most Out Of Your Youth

Life isn’t easy, and in fact it can be downright difficult. Sometimes it doesn’t play ball with us the way we like to. It’s not that hard to get lost in a whirlwind of worry, regret and what-ifs. From the age of 20 – 30, this can go tenfold. Figuring out who you want to be, how you want to make a living and what relationships to maintain can make the toughest young adult blush with fear.

There’s always going to be a ‘what if’ in your life, but making sure that you squeeze the most out of your youth is something that will help lessen how much you think of it. Sometimes, all the ‘ifs’ don’t matter because you’re right where you want to be. Follow this guide and set of maxims to enable you to make the most of your new foray into the big wide world.

Don’t Worry

This is easier said than done, but any attempt at doing so will help you become a better, more rounded person. Worrying is natural in humans, it’s how we pay attention to the details we shouldn’t overlook. Worrying too much is a problem however, and can prevent you from taking risks. Remember, God is in control and has told you to cast all your worries on Him!

Stay humble, honest and sincere, you’ll be surprised how far that gets you. Don’t be afraid to make decisions, because sometimes the best decision is something you could never have envisaged. You will only know if you experience, so say ‘yes’ to life in every way. You’ll live a fuller, happier life because of it, no matter how long you live for or how much you achieve. Being available is the opposite of worry, because you’re directing your mental energy to what’s in front of you, lending strength to your daily happiness.

Take Risks

Don’t be afraid to take risks! Even the scariest looking situation such as moving to another country to start a degree can give you unforgettable memories you’ll be so happy you took the chance on. As long as you’re reasonable as to what you can achieve at the moment and understand that you have everything going for you, you’ll be much more inclined to follow love instead of fear and find out what really makes you feel alive.

Don’t Be Afraid To Fail

Here’s a life lesson that is completely, resoundingly, undeniably true. You’re going to fail. In fact, you’re going to fail at things your entire life. It’s part of being human, and it’s no great failing in a human being to make mistakes. If making mistakes is a certainty, why worry about it? Why fear it? As long as you’re willing to learn from your errors you are doing better than most people. Remember, life is a great experiment, and not partaking in it will be worse than any form of failure you can imagine. So relax!

Don’t Feel Like You Have To Have Everything Figured Out

The hunt for a career and following your dreams is commendable, in fact, something to be encouraged, but too often we compare ourselves with those who are at the top of their industry despite them being 20 years older. Remember, these are your formative years. These are the years where you can grow, adapt, and learn to love your chosen field in thousands of ways. Just focus on being the best student of life you can be, be kind, stay focused on Christ and things are sure to work out. The old maxim is true, reach for the stars, because even if you fail, you’ll land amongst the clouds.

Do Travel

Travel broadens the mind and makes you a fuller, more whole person. You’ll gain fresh perspective about how cultures operate, how they communicate and how they navigate this thing called life. Be ready to travel anywhere and everywhere (safely,) that you can, and remember, this world exists for you as much as anyone else.

Allow Your Entire World To Be Changed Overnight

If you don’t have responsibilities to a child or someone you care for, make sure to use this time to be free as a bird! Allow spontaneous job opportunities to take you across the country. Allow holidays you weren’t prepared for to bring you out of your shell. Allow romances to sweep you off of your feet. This is where you experience life with novice eyes, so as long as you’re sensible and keep your head about you, you should let yourself feel free and open for sudden change.

Take Care of Yourself

It’s easy as a young adult to feel reckless, and you should indeed be able to have fun and let your hair down in ways that an older person might raise their eyebrow at. But you should still be sensible, and take care of your physical and mental health. Remember, this is your body that you will be carrying for the rest of your life. This is the only one you’ll have. Be sure to pray, exercise, meditate and read in order to stimulate your curiosity (as well as setting up brilliant habits for life!)

Also, don’t be afraid to look good. This is your time to show the world what you’ve got. No matter how into fashion or beauty you are, looking good usually equals feeling good. Feel free to show the world who you are and don’t feel guilty about it! For great discounts on beauty products at Ulta check here: https://www.couponsherpa.com/ulta/

See The Good In Everything

This is paramount. Make sure that even the rough times you’ll inevitably face are seen for their silver lining. This is the time when you’ll mature the most, so every form of experience will shape you in some way. Try and make sure it’s for the positive. The most trying times are often the ones that shape our character, and remember, a tree can only stretch it’s branches to the sky as far as the depth of its roots will support.

Life doesn’t end until it ends, so you have time for adventure the whole way through. Just because your 20’s are over doesn’t mean you should stop living with joy and abandon. But it’s so easy to focus on what you should be doing in your 20’s, it can be hard to see what you could be doing. Love yourself, follow your heart and you’ll be taken places you’ve never dreamed of.

Always remember, your life should never be a chore, but a dance!

 

No More Fear: Nailing Your Future Career

Entering the adult world of jobs and responsibilities is scary. It’s overwhelming, and you’ve no idea where to begin. The most comforting thing to remember is that everyone’s been there, and it’s much easier to handle than you’re currently envisioning in your head. Everybody stumbles and feels their way around at first, but that’s all part of the learning curve.

Whether you’re studying at college and worrying about the future or you’ve just graduated and you’re wondering what on earth you’re supposed to do next, there’s no rush. It’s better to think carefully about the path you should take to the career of your dreams rather than simply grab the first thing which comes along. If that doesn’t help and you’ve still no idea where to begin, here are some tips that might help you nail that career of yours wherever it’s years in the future or something you want today.

Get all the experience you can.

There’s a horrible cycle in a lot of industries whereby people can only stand a chance of being hired if they have experience in that particular job role, but experience in that particular job role could only ever possibly be gained through being hired in the first place. In this brutal, competitive world of business, you’ve got to learn to dig deep and chase opportunities wherever they may be. Whilst you’re young and you have it all ahead of you, you should be chasing all manner of volunteering and work experience opportunities.

Working for free may not be an option for you in the future, but whilst you have no financial responsibilities and you’re struggling to get hired in jobs related to your dream industry, you should be taking up all the opportunities for a good dose of work experience that you can get. If you want to work in media, get a volunteering job in your local radio station; if you want to be a writer one day, apply for some administrative experience for your local newspaper. Whilst there may not be many jobs available for the inexperienced in your industry of choice, there are always roles available for a motivated, eager individual willing to work for free. That’s just the way the world works.

The application.

Your CV is crucial here. You’ve likely built up more experience than you realise over the years, and your qualifications are worth a whole lot to an employer who’s looking for fresh-faced graduates. This is all new to you, so you might want to start with a resume builder to help you put all your experience together in a coherent and employer-friendly format. There’s an art to painting your experience in a good light, even if you don’t think you have much. Helping family members when they were ill, volunteering at a local charity and working hard night after night on essay after essay to get your degree: these are all things which impress an employer. Don’t undersell yourself.

Don’t apply for any and every job.

As a young person who is panicking and just wants any job at all, it’s tempting to choose the first “okay” opportunity which comes along. Don’t do this. If you know which career you want to pursue, you need to work hard and pursue it. It may not happen at first, but nothing good in life every does. You need to dig deep or you might end up in a career you hate.

From Teen To Adult In 4 Steps

All girls will go through puberty at some point between the ages of nine and fourteen. This is the point at which a child’s body starts to grow and get ready for adulthood. There are some big changes that occur in a girl’s body during this time, some of which can be very strange and hard to come to terms with. However, no matter what happens to your body during puberty, there is no need to stress out about it! We have all been through it before and know exactly how you are feeling. Here are five of the most common things that change in a girl during puberty.

Breasts Develop

One of the most obvious physical changes to occur in a girl’s body is that her breasts will start to develop. At first, she will develop small breast buds, which will then become more fuller and grow into breasts. Not only will girls start to see these developments, but they will also start to feel them. That’s because their nipples will become slightly tender and sore. If you do find that your nipples and breast buds become painful, this is nothing to worry about and perfectly natural.

Periods Start

One of the main changes that girls worry about is the start of their periods. Most girls start at around 12 years old, but some can be as young as eight when they get their first period. There are various signs that signal a girl is about to get her period. These include a dull ache in her belly and a white discharge from the vagina. Once your period starts, you shouldn’t feel self-conscious about it. As long as you are using tampons or towels correctly, no one will be able to notice. Be sure to maintain good personal hygiene during the period, as this can reduce the development of infections: www.popsugar.com/moms/Signs-Yeast-Infection-Girls-30947431.

Notice The Opposite Sex More

During puberty, there will be some big hormonal changes in your body, and as a result, you will start to notice the opposite sex more. This means that you might start to fancy boys and could be sexually attracted to them. Even though you may feel ready to experiment sexually, you should wait until you are married. Abstinence is the best way to protect against unwanted guilt, regret, pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections: www.prioritystdtesting.com.

Gain Weight

Most girls find that they gain weight during puberty. This is a result of the hormonal changes, as the body is getting ready to bear children. You will find that your hips become a lot rounder and you start to develop fuller thighs and arms. Don’t worry, though; this doesn’t mean you are getting fat! It is just your body changing from a child’s into a woman’s! There are other factors that may affect the weight gain, such as going on the contraceptive pill.

Once you are prepared for puberty, you shouldn’t find the changes that much of a shock, and will be able to be happy throughout this phase!

Moving House? How to Make New Friends in a New City

Making friends is not as easy as it used to be. When you’re a little bit younger at school or university you are thrown in with this huge group of people all of a similar age and all going through the same experience. However, adult life isn’t generally like that. You might have work colleagues that you get on with, but they may have wildly different interests or be at a completely different stage of their lives, which can make it difficult to make friends in quite the same way.

If you’ve recently moved to a new area, the friend-making process takes on even more significance as you may moved away from some of your nearest and dearest. The below tips, however, should help you boost your friend network wherever you’ve moved to.  

Join a class

One of the best ways of making new friends is to join a local class – and it can relate to whatever interests you.

Classes range from educational, like studying for a professional qualification, to physical, such as learning how to play badminton. The options are endless and not only do you get to meet like-minded people, you also get to learn a new skill or improve your fitness. So, whether you end up taking part in a Zumba dance for burning fat or starting life drawing lessons, don’t spend all your evenings locked up at home.

Moved abroad?

In today’s globalised world, work is much more flexible than it was previously. Companies have operations all over the world and many people find themselves moving abroad to experience a new culture or to further their career aspirations.

This brings the added challenge of trying to make friends in a culture that is not entirely familiar to you. Fortunately, services like Conversation Exchange give you the perfect opportunity to meet new people and learn more about your new home. It encourages you to meet native speakers in your area for a chat, so you both get to practise your language skills.

Make the most of any connections you do have

When you’re moving to a new place it can feel like you are completely on your own, but do you have some local connections that you are forgetting about? Even if it’s just a passing acquaintance or someone that you haven’t spoken to in years, reach out to them saying you’ve just moved into the local area and they’re bound to have some time to show you around. So if you have a friend of a friend or a distant relative living nearby, get in touch!

Put yourself out there

The best advice for anyone moving to a new area is this: make an effort. Go to church, social events, head out in the evening to the movies, and say “yes” when you’re invited to any get-togethers. Potential new friends are all around you and you never know when you’re going to meet your next one. Making new friends isn’t always easy, but it’s impossible if you don’t put yourself out there.

 

Adulting Is Tough: What You Need To Think About When It Comes To Your Future

It’s time to get a little honest here, being an adult is no walk in the park. I think when you are younger you have this idea about what life is going to be like. Perhaps daydreaming about shopping, decorating your own home, getting married and having a family. Sound familiar? But being an adult is tough going, and whether you are in high school, studying for a diploma or just entering into the world of adult life, it’s time to be prepared for the future. After all, it’s what we do with every day of our lives, that makes the difference. So I thought as we approach the end of the year now would be a good time for you to think about your future, and ask yourself a few questions about what you want in life.

Do you have a five-year plan?

Having a five-year plan might seem a difficult thing to get your head around, but once you start to think about the next few years ahead you’ll find it’s easier than you thought. You might decide to think further into the future, or focus on the here and now but five years seems like a huge amount of time where things can be changing for you drastically. So think about the next few years ahead. What courses you want to study? What career you might like?

Have you considered furthering your education and the impact it could have?

On the topic of thinking for the future education is going to be high on your list of considerations. Do you or don’t you carry on and study? Does the career you want depend on a degree or a diploma being obtained? Not only is about making the decision on your studies but also the impact it will have financially on your or your family. You might need to consider how much you owe on student loans now or what that figure might be in the future.

Do you have savings in place to help you get on the property ladder?

Money can be one of those life skills we either master, or we don’t until we are older. Right now the most important thing to do you could be to get your hair done or purchase the latest high street trends. But what about using that money you have for the future? Saving money can start at any age, and the more you end up saving, the brighter your future could be. Enabling you to get a house of your own, or even fund your education without the need for loans and grants.

What do you want to do in life?

Right now is the perfect time to daydream about the future and think about what you want in life. Focus on the new year ahead and set yourself some resolutions. But also use this time as a chance to think about some of the actions you could be taking right now, to better your life in the future. After all, I guarantee many older people today would look back on their younger self and offer the same advice.