It’s Time To Take Charge Of Your Life!

When you’re a kid, it’s easy to feel as though everyone else is in charge of you. You’re told when to eat, when to sleep, who you can see, and where you can go. But when you’re a teenager, you’re right on the cusp of being a real adult, and it starts to feel like you have a lot more freedom over what you do. Now, this can be an amazing thing and something that a lot of teens spend their lives waiting for, but it can also be pretty intimidating. After all, for the first time in your life, you’re faced with the idea of actually having to make your own choices and be responsible for the consequences. It’s enough to make some people want to retreat to their rooms and go back to being a kid. Of course, you can’t go back, so here are some ways in which you can start taking charge of your own life.


Once you’re old enough, there are few things more exciting than the idea of being able to start earning your own money! After all, do you really want to spend your life asking your parents for money every time you want to go to the movies? Of course not! However, finding work when you’re still young can be really tough. There are plenty of places that will hire you; they just might not be your dream job right now. That’s okay. The job that you have now won’t be the one you have forever, and it’s more about being able to enjoy the freedom that earning your own money provides than finding your lifetime career. Don’t put it off either, take 5 minutes to get started with your Subway application, or any other application that you can find, and get out into the working world! Sure, fast food places, retail stores, or restaurants might not be the most glamorous places in the world, but they help you gain that independence that is so important as you get older.


When you’re younger, you’ve often got teachers and parents staring down your neck all of the time in order to make sure that you’re pushing yourself as hard as possible and that you’re studying as much as you can. However, you’ll find that once you’re in college, that’s all going to change. When you’re in college, the only person who’s around to hold you accountable is, well, you! This is something that a lot of people struggle with at first because it’s something that they’re really not used to. Because of that, it’s important that you start being more independently motivated with your studies right now. Sure, you might still have your parents and teachers around right now, but if you can avoid leaning on them and push yourself forward independently then not only are your studies going to improve a lot, but you’re also going to be in a much better position to move onto a more independent stage in your life.

Deciding On A Career Once You Enter “The Real World”

It can feel rather patronizing when adults tell you throughout your life that you’ll understand things once you enter “the real world”. It’s important to remember that the things you’ve been learning throughout your education do help you in the real world far more than you may be led to believe by things you read or see in popular culture. It’s also important to remember that you don’t only have one path available to you. More importantly, you don’t have to stick with the first job you choose. This is a journey, and you need to learn about yourself; look at your skills, and apply them as you see fit. Here’s some inspiration to help you decide on a career whether you’ve just graduated or you’re graduating in a few years.


Think about what you want from your first job.

Don’t cave into pressure. When you graduate, some of your friends may find jobs instantly and others may be in the same boat as you: unsure of what they want or unable to find the right job for them. Don’t choose any old opportunity because you feel like you “should” have a job. Don’t settle just because you feel like you’re lucky to have been given any chance at all; you’ve just graduated, and you have a skill set for which most employers are desperate. Understand your worth, and take some time to think about what you want from a job. Make a list of your requirements.


There’s more to an industry than what you see on the surface.

This is a crucial piece of advice to take on board. You might have studied French but you don’t want to be a French teacher or Math but you don’t want to be a “boring” mathematician. In both cases, you’re only looking at the surface. Linguistic skills can be used with foreign relations in governments, and mathematical skills can be used in all manner of exciting careers. You might consider job sites which are recruiting for finance because the stereotype of working in a bank or calculating figures in a dull office cubicle are both only looking at aspects of the industry on a surface level. You could help with the financial aspects of an organization you care about deeply; perhaps there’s a charity or an ethical business which does work that means something to you.

So, if you have a mathematical brain, you don’t have to resign yourself to a dull office job because you feel like that’s what you “should” be doing; you could become a forensic analyst or conduct statistical tests for important government organizations. If you have a creative brain, you don’t have to resign yourself to a non-creative job because “there are no jobs for artists”; you could do graphical design for an advertising firm or write promotional material for a big business. There are so many levels to so many industries out there, but the search for that perfect position can only start with you actually searching.


Keep learning.

Never stop learning. This doesn’t mean you should go back to college, but you should always be developing your skills. Education was the first rung on the ladder, but there’s so much to learn out in the adult world. Soak up every skill you can from your first job, even if you know it’s not something you want to do forever. All experience is still experience. You’ll be surprised to see what you can learn even from being involved in an industry which you don’t want to be your future industry of employment.

Life Experiences That Will Make You A Better Adult

When you look at successful people – be it success in their careers, their relationships, or just a general serenity in their lives – it’s easy to wonder how they managed it. For many young people, the idea of adulthood is something that is terrifying. We may crave the ability to make our own way in the world, but who wants to saddle themselves with the responsibilities of what’s colloquially referred to as “adulting”?

It therefore makes sense to aim to be one of those people who seems to have got this whole life business sorted out. The question is – how did they get there?

There is a common thought in philosophy that we are all the product of our experiences. It is the things we live – rather than the basics that we are born with – that make our life what it is. There are things we can learn as we experience them; things we can do to prompt our minds’ to travel in the right direction. If you go through one of these experiences in your formative years, then it might just make a huge difference to how that adult life you both revere and fear comes to pass.

1) Travel

Traveling is not without its perils. It can be tiring, worrying, or just seem like a lot of effort. However, there is something about expanding your horizons that alters the way you see things when you come back home.

The experience you need to glean from traveling is not going to come from the seven-day beach holidays you may be accustomed to. Consider more “earthed” experiences like backpacking or taking part in mission trips for youth groups – something that gives you more of a chance of a genuine connection with the places you see, and the people you meet.

It’s also a good idea to travel away from the normal tourist traps. Experience a different part of the world, not the polished “for tourists” areas that have a ring of inauthenticity.


2) Go To Therapy

If you don’t have a particular problem, then the idea of therapy might seem like a strange one. However, sometimes the most productive therapeutic sessions come about when the patient doesn’t think they have anything to say – but it turns out, there’s a river of thoughts they need to dissect and discuss.

Therapy doesn’t have to be about fixing a problem. It can be about helping you on your journey in the best way possible. It provides a neutral perspective on the things you experience and can help you get the most out of them, as well as helping you over any of the blips on the road.


3) Learn For The Sake Of Learning

As a young adult, you might feel you have had your fill of learning. Up until this point, your life has been about mandatory attendance and learning about subjects you might have no interest in.

As an adult, it’s hugely beneficial to be curious and want to continue to learn. The brilliant part of this is that you can choose your subject. It could just be falling into a Wikipedia clickhole and discovering a new passion, but always keep your mind open to new information to get the best out of life.


In Your 20s? Life Lessons You Should Remember To Squeeze The Most Out Of Your Youth

Life isn’t easy, and in fact it can be downright difficult. Sometimes it doesn’t play ball with us the way we like to. It’s not that hard to get lost in a whirlwind of worry, regret and what-ifs. From the age of 20 – 30, this can go tenfold. Figuring out who you want to be, how you want to make a living and what relationships to maintain can make the toughest young adult blush with fear.

There’s always going to be a ‘what if’ in your life, but making sure that you squeeze the most out of your youth is something that will help lessen how much you think of it. Sometimes, all the ‘ifs’ don’t matter because you’re right where you want to be. Follow this guide and set of maxims to enable you to make the most of your new foray into the big wide world.

Don’t Worry

This is easier said than done, but any attempt at doing so will help you become a better, more rounded person. Worrying is natural in humans, it’s how we pay attention to the details we shouldn’t overlook. Worrying too much is a problem however, and can prevent you from taking risks. Remember, God is in control and has told you to cast all your worries on Him!

Stay humble, honest and sincere, you’ll be surprised how far that gets you. Don’t be afraid to make decisions, because sometimes the best decision is something you could never have envisaged. You will only know if you experience, so say ‘yes’ to life in every way. You’ll live a fuller, happier life because of it, no matter how long you live for or how much you achieve. Being available is the opposite of worry, because you’re directing your mental energy to what’s in front of you, lending strength to your daily happiness.

Take Risks

Don’t be afraid to take risks! Even the scariest looking situation such as moving to another country to start a degree can give you unforgettable memories you’ll be so happy you took the chance on. As long as you’re reasonable as to what you can achieve at the moment and understand that you have everything going for you, you’ll be much more inclined to follow love instead of fear and find out what really makes you feel alive.

Don’t Be Afraid To Fail

Here’s a life lesson that is completely, resoundingly, undeniably true. You’re going to fail. In fact, you’re going to fail at things your entire life. It’s part of being human, and it’s no great failing in a human being to make mistakes. If making mistakes is a certainty, why worry about it? Why fear it? As long as you’re willing to learn from your errors you are doing better than most people. Remember, life is a great experiment, and not partaking in it will be worse than any form of failure you can imagine. So relax!

Don’t Feel Like You Have To Have Everything Figured Out

The hunt for a career and following your dreams is commendable, in fact, something to be encouraged, but too often we compare ourselves with those who are at the top of their industry despite them being 20 years older. Remember, these are your formative years. These are the years where you can grow, adapt, and learn to love your chosen field in thousands of ways. Just focus on being the best student of life you can be, be kind, stay focused on Christ and things are sure to work out. The old maxim is true, reach for the stars, because even if you fail, you’ll land amongst the clouds.

Do Travel

Travel broadens the mind and makes you a fuller, more whole person. You’ll gain fresh perspective about how cultures operate, how they communicate and how they navigate this thing called life. Be ready to travel anywhere and everywhere (safely,) that you can, and remember, this world exists for you as much as anyone else.

Allow Your Entire World To Be Changed Overnight

If you don’t have responsibilities to a child or someone you care for, make sure to use this time to be free as a bird! Allow spontaneous job opportunities to take you across the country. Allow holidays you weren’t prepared for to bring you out of your shell. Allow romances to sweep you off of your feet. This is where you experience life with novice eyes, so as long as you’re sensible and keep your head about you, you should let yourself feel free and open for sudden change.

Take Care of Yourself

It’s easy as a young adult to feel reckless, and you should indeed be able to have fun and let your hair down in ways that an older person might raise their eyebrow at. But you should still be sensible, and take care of your physical and mental health. Remember, this is your body that you will be carrying for the rest of your life. This is the only one you’ll have. Be sure to pray, exercise, meditate and read in order to stimulate your curiosity (as well as setting up brilliant habits for life!)

Also, don’t be afraid to look good. This is your time to show the world what you’ve got. No matter how into fashion or beauty you are, looking good usually equals feeling good. Feel free to show the world who you are and don’t feel guilty about it! For great discounts on beauty products at Ulta check here:

See The Good In Everything

This is paramount. Make sure that even the rough times you’ll inevitably face are seen for their silver lining. This is the time when you’ll mature the most, so every form of experience will shape you in some way. Try and make sure it’s for the positive. The most trying times are often the ones that shape our character, and remember, a tree can only stretch it’s branches to the sky as far as the depth of its roots will support.

Life doesn’t end until it ends, so you have time for adventure the whole way through. Just because your 20’s are over doesn’t mean you should stop living with joy and abandon. But it’s so easy to focus on what you should be doing in your 20’s, it can be hard to see what you could be doing. Love yourself, follow your heart and you’ll be taken places you’ve never dreamed of.

Always remember, your life should never be a chore, but a dance!


No More Fear: Nailing Your Future Career

Entering the adult world of jobs and responsibilities is scary. It’s overwhelming, and you’ve no idea where to begin. The most comforting thing to remember is that everyone’s been there, and it’s much easier to handle than you’re currently envisioning in your head. Everybody stumbles and feels their way around at first, but that’s all part of the learning curve.

Whether you’re studying at college and worrying about the future or you’ve just graduated and you’re wondering what on earth you’re supposed to do next, there’s no rush. It’s better to think carefully about the path you should take to the career of your dreams rather than simply grab the first thing which comes along. If that doesn’t help and you’ve still no idea where to begin, here are some tips that might help you nail that career of yours wherever it’s years in the future or something you want today.

Get all the experience you can.

There’s a horrible cycle in a lot of industries whereby people can only stand a chance of being hired if they have experience in that particular job role, but experience in that particular job role could only ever possibly be gained through being hired in the first place. In this brutal, competitive world of business, you’ve got to learn to dig deep and chase opportunities wherever they may be. Whilst you’re young and you have it all ahead of you, you should be chasing all manner of volunteering and work experience opportunities.

Working for free may not be an option for you in the future, but whilst you have no financial responsibilities and you’re struggling to get hired in jobs related to your dream industry, you should be taking up all the opportunities for a good dose of work experience that you can get. If you want to work in media, get a volunteering job in your local radio station; if you want to be a writer one day, apply for some administrative experience for your local newspaper. Whilst there may not be many jobs available for the inexperienced in your industry of choice, there are always roles available for a motivated, eager individual willing to work for free. That’s just the way the world works.

The application.

Your CV is crucial here. You’ve likely built up more experience than you realise over the years, and your qualifications are worth a whole lot to an employer who’s looking for fresh-faced graduates. This is all new to you, so you might want to start with a resume builder to help you put all your experience together in a coherent and employer-friendly format. There’s an art to painting your experience in a good light, even if you don’t think you have much. Helping family members when they were ill, volunteering at a local charity and working hard night after night on essay after essay to get your degree: these are all things which impress an employer. Don’t undersell yourself.

Don’t apply for any and every job.

As a young person who is panicking and just wants any job at all, it’s tempting to choose the first “okay” opportunity which comes along. Don’t do this. If you know which career you want to pursue, you need to work hard and pursue it. It may not happen at first, but nothing good in life every does. You need to dig deep or you might end up in a career you hate.

From Teen To Adult In 4 Steps

All girls will go through puberty at some point between the ages of nine and fourteen. This is the point at which a child’s body starts to grow and get ready for adulthood. There are some big changes that occur in a girl’s body during this time, some of which can be very strange and hard to come to terms with. However, no matter what happens to your body during puberty, there is no need to stress out about it! We have all been through it before and know exactly how you are feeling. Here are five of the most common things that change in a girl during puberty.

Breasts Develop

One of the most obvious physical changes to occur in a girl’s body is that her breasts will start to develop. At first, she will develop small breast buds, which will then become more fuller and grow into breasts. Not only will girls start to see these developments, but they will also start to feel them. That’s because their nipples will become slightly tender and sore. If you do find that your nipples and breast buds become painful, this is nothing to worry about and perfectly natural.

Periods Start

One of the main changes that girls worry about is the start of their periods. Most girls start at around 12 years old, but some can be as young as eight when they get their first period. There are various signs that signal a girl is about to get her period. These include a dull ache in her belly and a white discharge from the vagina. Once your period starts, you shouldn’t feel self-conscious about it. As long as you are using tampons or towels correctly, no one will be able to notice. Be sure to maintain good personal hygiene during the period, as this can reduce the development of infections:

Notice The Opposite Sex More

During puberty, there will be some big hormonal changes in your body, and as a result, you will start to notice the opposite sex more. This means that you might start to fancy boys and could be sexually attracted to them. Even though you may feel ready to experiment sexually, you should wait until you are married. Abstinence is the best way to protect against unwanted guilt, regret, pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections:

Gain Weight

Most girls find that they gain weight during puberty. This is a result of the hormonal changes, as the body is getting ready to bear children. You will find that your hips become a lot rounder and you start to develop fuller thighs and arms. Don’t worry, though; this doesn’t mean you are getting fat! It is just your body changing from a child’s into a woman’s! There are other factors that may affect the weight gain, such as going on the contraceptive pill.

Once you are prepared for puberty, you shouldn’t find the changes that much of a shock, and will be able to be happy throughout this phase!

Moving House? How to Make New Friends in a New City

Making friends is not as easy as it used to be. When you’re a little bit younger at school or university you are thrown in with this huge group of people all of a similar age and all going through the same experience. However, adult life isn’t generally like that. You might have work colleagues that you get on with, but they may have wildly different interests or be at a completely different stage of their lives, which can make it difficult to make friends in quite the same way.

If you’ve recently moved to a new area, the friend-making process takes on even more significance as you may moved away from some of your nearest and dearest. The below tips, however, should help you boost your friend network wherever you’ve moved to.  

Join a class

One of the best ways of making new friends is to join a local class – and it can relate to whatever interests you.

Classes range from educational, like studying for a professional qualification, to physical, such as learning how to play badminton. The options are endless and not only do you get to meet like-minded people, you also get to learn a new skill or improve your fitness. So, whether you end up taking part in a Zumba dance for burning fat or starting life drawing lessons, don’t spend all your evenings locked up at home.

Moved abroad?

In today’s globalised world, work is much more flexible than it was previously. Companies have operations all over the world and many people find themselves moving abroad to experience a new culture or to further their career aspirations.

This brings the added challenge of trying to make friends in a culture that is not entirely familiar to you. Fortunately, services like Conversation Exchange give you the perfect opportunity to meet new people and learn more about your new home. It encourages you to meet native speakers in your area for a chat, so you both get to practise your language skills.

Make the most of any connections you do have

When you’re moving to a new place it can feel like you are completely on your own, but do you have some local connections that you are forgetting about? Even if it’s just a passing acquaintance or someone that you haven’t spoken to in years, reach out to them saying you’ve just moved into the local area and they’re bound to have some time to show you around. So if you have a friend of a friend or a distant relative living nearby, get in touch!

Put yourself out there

The best advice for anyone moving to a new area is this: make an effort. Go to church, social events, head out in the evening to the movies, and say “yes” when you’re invited to any get-togethers. Potential new friends are all around you and you never know when you’re going to meet your next one. Making new friends isn’t always easy, but it’s impossible if you don’t put yourself out there.


Adulting Is Tough: What You Need To Think About When It Comes To Your Future

It’s time to get a little honest here, being an adult is no walk in the park. I think when you are younger you have this idea about what life is going to be like. Perhaps daydreaming about shopping, decorating your own home, getting married and having a family. Sound familiar? But being an adult is tough going, and whether you are in high school, studying for a diploma or just entering into the world of adult life, it’s time to be prepared for the future. After all, it’s what we do with every day of our lives, that makes the difference. So I thought as we approach the end of the year now would be a good time for you to think about your future, and ask yourself a few questions about what you want in life.

Do you have a five-year plan?

Having a five-year plan might seem a difficult thing to get your head around, but once you start to think about the next few years ahead you’ll find it’s easier than you thought. You might decide to think further into the future, or focus on the here and now but five years seems like a huge amount of time where things can be changing for you drastically. So think about the next few years ahead. What courses you want to study? What career you might like?

Have you considered furthering your education and the impact it could have?

On the topic of thinking for the future education is going to be high on your list of considerations. Do you or don’t you carry on and study? Does the career you want depend on a degree or a diploma being obtained? Not only is about making the decision on your studies but also the impact it will have financially on your or your family. You might need to consider how much you owe on student loans now or what that figure might be in the future.

Do you have savings in place to help you get on the property ladder?

Money can be one of those life skills we either master, or we don’t until we are older. Right now the most important thing to do you could be to get your hair done or purchase the latest high street trends. But what about using that money you have for the future? Saving money can start at any age, and the more you end up saving, the brighter your future could be. Enabling you to get a house of your own, or even fund your education without the need for loans and grants.

What do you want to do in life?

Right now is the perfect time to daydream about the future and think about what you want in life. Focus on the new year ahead and set yourself some resolutions. But also use this time as a chance to think about some of the actions you could be taking right now, to better your life in the future. After all, I guarantee many older people today would look back on their younger self and offer the same advice.

Psychotherapy for ADHD

Teen_with_therapistAttention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a brain disorder characterized by difficulty paying attention, poor impulse control, and physical and mental hyperactivity. It is one of the most common brain disorders in children and adolescents, but it can also affect adults — although adults with this disorder are often those who had undiagnosed ADHD as children.

People with this disorder often have difficulty with school and work, and may also have problems getting along with children and other adults. However, with proper treatment, it is also possible for people with this disorder to live normal, healthy and productive lives.

Medication is considered the most effective treatment for ADHD, with stimulants such as amphetamines being the most common. Although stimulants seem counterproductive in children that are already over-stimulated, these types of drugs actually activate the parts of the brain that control attention and focus and could actually reduce hyperactive behavior. However, these meds have a lot of side effects don’t always work for all ADHD patients.

Some ADHD patients actually respond well to non-drug treatments such as psychotherapy.

Psychotherapy for ADHD

The main focus of using psychotherapy to treat ADHD is to teach patients to recognize and moderate their own behavior. It also teaches patients to be aware of activities and circumstances that might trigger ADHD behavior and symptoms.

An ADHD therapist could help a teenager with ADHD realize that not getting enough sleep will actually make her symptoms worse the next day.

An ADHD therapist could help a third grader realize that sitting next to a blank wall is more likely to activate the hyperactive part of his brain and cause him to act out in class. As a result, she might work with his parents and teachers to find a more agreeable seating arrangement.

Psychotherapy doesn’t just help patients with ADHD cope with the symptoms, it also helps their parents, friends, and other family members by giving both patients and their loved one the tools they need to understand and explain how the disorder works.

The Benefits of Psychotherapy

One of the biggest benefits of psychotherapy is that it does not have the side effects common to drug treatments.

Sleep disturbances and reduced appetite are the most common side effects of the stimulant drugs used to treat ADHD. However, there cannot be more serious symptoms such as:

Sudden, repetitive movements or sounds called tics;

Stunted growth, especially in children who start taking the medication in preschool or before; and,

A greater risk of heart attack or stroke in children with pre-existing heart disease.

Parents might also realize changes in the children’s behavior, including a flat affect, the result of the medication.

Because psychotherapy does not introduce stimulants to the system or change brain chemistry and anyway, there are no dangerous side-effects.

Disadvantages to Psychotherapy

The biggest disadvantage to psychotherapy is that it relies heavily on the patient being able to recognize and moderate his own behavior, and to recognize circumstances of activities that could trigger his symptoms.

Because ADHD affects the part of the brain that governs impulse control, people with the disorder have to work harder to be aware of their behavior and actions, and of when they are veering ADHD territory. Depending on the severity of their disorder, this can be very difficult and even impossible for some individuals. As a result, psychotherapy alone might not be the answer.

This is not to say that psychotherapy will work it all, only that some individuals might need a combination of medication and psychotherapy to effectively manage their disorder. It might even be possible for some individuals to start off with medication, integrate psychotherapy, and once the psychotherapy begins to work slowly reduce and even eliminate the medication.

The success or failure of psychotherapy can also depend on the patient’s relationship with his therapist. The same way that not all drugs work for all patients in the same way, not all therapists work for every patient. If a child is not responding well to psychotherapy, it could mean that you need to try a different therapist before integrating drugs into his treatment program.


ADHD is a serious disorder that can interfere with a person’s ability to function normally in the world. However with proper treatment it is possible for people with ADHD to live perfectly productive lives. The key is in finding the right treatment. For some patients it could mean medication and the attendant side effects. Many patients respond well to psychotherapy alone, and those who need medication might also benefit from adding psychotherapy as an additional treatment. When choosing psychotherapy, what’s important is finding the right therapist to have the right chemistry with your child.

The Journey Toward Adult-Hood

The Journey Toward Adult-Hood  

by Erika Walker

walking down the pathWhile there are hundreds, even hundreds of thousands of challenging, boring or exciting jobs; the job of developing into a healthy young woman happens to belong to you.  The job is difficult, even treacherous, especially if as a teen, like many others, you don’t have any real help or guidance in growing into becoming a happy, healthy young woman.  Many adults don’t have a clue to the meaning of being a well-adjusted grown-up.  That is the reality and the reason behind this article, to provide some guidance in the difficult journey toward adult-hood.

Self-esteem is essential and a teenager’s challenges to her self-esteem are constant.  Body image  is very important, yet our body image is under constant assault.  Almost everywhere, from music to movies to television to print ads the message resonates that a teens body is unacceptable.  Too fat, too thin, acne, name the problem and there is a commercial solution.  The truth of the matter is, everyone has at least one thing about their bodies they do not like.  The most important aspect of self-esteem is finding the great thing about yourself and building on what you love about yourself.

While it may sound cliché, there is a great deal of truth in that loving yourself will attract other people to you.  You may have fallen into the trap and now believe that there is nothing good about yourself.  One of the best ways to combat this attitude is to remember feeling bad about yourself is a feeling and feelings can be changed.  Start by becoming your own best friend, this is an important lesson to learn, many adults do not know how to treat themselves well.  The first step is in treating yourself kindly.  If you are unkind to yourself, there is no reason for other people to treat you well.  You have an obligation to yourself to learn to be nice to yourself.

Everyone makes mistakes and it is key to learn that a mistake, is just that, a mistake.  You can go the extra mile and think through how the mistake was made and learn to avoid making the same mistake.  You will be a better person for the effort and you will have taught yourself a very valuable lesson, that is, avoiding making the same mistake twice!  But, you ask, what happens if the same mistake happens again?  This is when you must learn a second very important lesson and that is to forgive yourself.  No one is perfect, even trying to be perfect is a mistake.  Why? Because you will always, always fall short of the goal.  Also, remember that no one does something correctly the first time.  Practice does make perfect.  Find something you enjoy, whether it is writing, singing, dancing, playing music, there are literally millions of choices.  Start a project you enjoy and begin working toward becoming the best possible you at the activity you have chosen.  At the very least, make a point of learning something new every single day, even if it is only a new word.

Stay active.  Although you may not feel like going outside and talking a walk.  Do it anyway.  Research has proven that a simple walk releases endorphins.  Endorphins are a natural way of feeling good and relieving depression.  Don’t feel as if you must walk for a long distance or for a long time, ten minutes a day is sufficient.  The key is to walk or choose another physical activity that you enjoy and do it every single day.  Simply through keeping your mind and body active you can feel better about yourself; these two steps are long strides toward combating the difficulties of growing up.

You have an important job and only you can accomplish it well, growing into a happy, healthy young woman.  That means you have a responsibility to yourself.  Seek out an adult you trust to talk with, when you are feeling unsure about yourself or simply when you need to talk.  If you do not feel able to speak with your parents, consider speaking with a Deaconess or youth leader. These people are trained to guide you through these difficult transitions for teen-age hood to adult hood.  You may not think that an adult could ever understand your particular difficulties, the truth is adults have faced some of the same difficulties as you are facing.  Talk with friends too, as it is likely they are feeling many of the same things you are feeling.  Generally, it is unwise to seek advice from friends, simply because friends are going through the same changes and may not have good, sound advice.  However, friends can certainly support you during these changes and encourage you through tough times, just as you can support and encourage your friends.

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