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True Beauty: Understanding What It Means

God tells us we are wonderfully and fearfully made, and to Him, you are beautiful and unique. He does not compare you to others, as you are the person He made you to be.

Unfortunately, we live in a society where we can feel judged. Despite what the Bible says, we can face pressure within ourselves, or from others, to conform to a false idea of beauty. In this article, we will try and get some perspective on the matter, and try to understand what true beauty means.

On the surface

When most people think of beauty, they think of face value. First impressions are made, wrongly, by the way somebody looks on the outside. The media doesn’t help. From magazine models to movie stars, we wonder why we don’t look like the people we see on the page and screen. There is also peer pressure at school to look and dress a certain way. If you are too fat or thin, or you are wearing the wrong fashions, you may struggle to fit in with the crowd.

For starters, don’t be fooled by the false image the media portrays. The pictures you see in magazines and on the internet have often been photoshopped, with any blemishes removed before publication. Movie stars are as insecure as anybody else, spending a fortune on making themselves look beautiful for the screen. You can look after your skin, with advice from a website such as Exfoliate.com, but you don’t need to compare yourself to others, as chances are, they will still look like you do first thing in the morning.

You don’t want to neglect your body, and we have offered advice at Relatemag.com. Health is important, so while you don’t need to feel ashamed about the way you look, there is still the need to be sensible and take care of yourself. Body shaming has become a trend, but there is no ‘perfect’ weight provided you are healthy and looking after yourself. There will always be bullies in life, but don’t subject yourself to their torment and criticism.

On the inside

The Bible tells us we are made in God’s image. We don’t know what God looks like, but the verse refers to the qualities of God, rather than physical appearance. You have probably noticed some of these qualities in other people, including love, kindness, and grace. It is this writer’s opinion that true beauty radiates from the inside. As you will know from movies such as “Mean Girls,’ people can be beautiful on the outside, but very ugly on the inside.

Focus on your inner beauty. Be somebody that cares for others. There will be people in your life who may not be physically attractive, at least to society’s standards, but you won’t notice this when their beauty radiates from the inside. Think of the people you love, and ask yourself why you do. It will be who they are on the inside, and the way they care for you.

So, what is true beauty? You decide, but above all, love yourself, for who you are, and be good to others.

Building A Better Body Image – 5 Things Every Late Teen Should Know

Body image is a priority for all, but carries an even greater significance for young adults. Not only does looking good make us feel good. It additionally has a huge impact on the way others view us, which further influences self-confidence and other features.

There’s no better time to start your positive body transformation. After all, it’s easier to make those changes while you’re still young. But before you do, it’s imperative that you equip yourself with the necessary knowledge to gain great results. Here’s everything you need to know.

Negative influences will take their toll. This is the stage of your life where you may be more likely to fall into the traps of alcohol consumption. There’s nothing wrong with a night out on the town, however, trading some of those beverages for mocktails can bring huge rewards. They are still fun in social settings but don’t come with the consequences of alcohol.

Your body can use a boost during those early stages. If you want to gain a better body, there’s a strong chance that you have made past mistakes. An organic detox tea can aid your general well being to leave you feeling healthier than ever. This is the perfect foundation for building a successful workout and healthy eating plan too. Apart from anything else, those two breaks for a cuppa give you a great chance to reflect and plan things.

Motivation is everything. If working out feels like a chore, you will not keep it up for the long haul. Therefore, finding ways to stay motivated throughout your workouts is key. Whether it’s in the gym or on the track, this will have a telling impact on the efficiency of those activities. Most importantly, though, you need to ensure that skipped sessions don’t become a regular feature. When this happens, progress will be slowed. Consequently, that will send the likelihood of giving up through the roof.

The human body changes with age. Puberty affects everyone differently. Therefore, you may just need to accept that the body you had during your early teens simply isn’t possible. Learn to love the skin you’re in by focusing on achieving the best possible version of you. Ultimately, if you can achieve this goal, then the opinions of anybody else become redundant. If that doesn’t allow you to become the happy and healthy person, what will?

It’s not all about your body. In truth, your facial features will always be the key to feeling your best. While girls will want to perfect their makeup rituals, boys just need to focus on good grooming. Clothing is an equally important element as your fashion choices are what bring the style and look to life. Whether you create your own personal appearance or borrow ideas from celebs doesn’t matter. Whatever you do, though, ensuring that those outfits fit is crucial.

You Are a Temple: 1 Corinthians 3:17

Written by Ellen Marie Hawkins

corinthian-317I was a fat child.  To say I was pudgy or chubby or even plump would insinuate that I was cute, and I wasn’t.  The kids at school called me Fatso.  Fatso.  Playground mockery is so ridiculous; just looking at that word I wonder where they came up with it, but within that word is a thousand implications that still make me tear up.  Unwanted.  Ugly.  Disgusting.  Rejected.  Hated, even.  As a fat and sensitive person, I went home more times than not, crying.  My dad told me that if I didn’t want to be made fun of for my weight, I should do something about it.

And so I did.  Or I tried.

The summer between fifth and sixth grade, I lost over twenty pounds.  I got lots of attention.  One teacher even asked if I was sick.  The names changed; I was suddenly called…Skinny.  Looking at that word, all I feel is empty.  It took me less than a year to realize that while the girls didn’t call me the same names, they could still be mean in other ways.  And I discovered that even though I had a new label to wear, I still didn’t feel so great about myself.

A Temple.

I was reading in 1 Corinthians a few weeks ago and loving the verses.  I was praying over them and meditating on them when a highlighted verse on the page over caught my attention.

You are that temple.

To be told that I am pretty or loved or valued makes me uncomfortable at best, downright suspicious at my worst.  Those playground children planted seeds, and I have spent most of my life sowing them.  Long after the bullying stopped, I continued to look in the mirror and say things that make words like Fatso sound like compliments.  To be told I am a temple is a hard pill for me to swallow; it goes against everything the world, and then myself, have conditioned my soul to believe.

And judging by the conversations I have had, and the state of the world that surrounds us, I know that chances are, you don’t believe those words, either.  We try to fill our self-esteems with products marketed to us to make us prettier, relationships that will complete us, lofty goals and impossible achievements that will feed us validation, and labels everyone around us deems acceptable to give us identification.  Meanwhile, all of that goes against the truth that we are created with a purpose, and that we are loved and treasured, right now, for simply being.

If we accepted that simple, yet completely profound, concept…we are loved, we are a temple, and completely believed it, how different would our behavior be?  I know for a fact that I would stop hesitating because of my insecurities and start doing more for others.  I would save a heck of a lot of money, knowing that new hair color won’t transform me into the image my Pinterest promises me I will become.  I could keep myself from wasting years in a toxic relationship because I know I am worth being loved by someone who understands my value.  I would stop abusing my own body by poisoning it with food or substances that are not good for me, or, on the flip side, I would stop punishing myself by restricting myself from getting the nourishment my body needs.  I would stop comparing myself to everyone else and would be satisfied with all my abilities…and my limitations.

And most importantly, I would stop listening to the whispers in my head that tell me I am not good enough.  I would fill myself up with the truths and the promises of the Bible, so much so that all the ugly lies would have no room to reside.

If I believed

That I am

A Temple

My entire world would change.

It’s sad to me that I found it easier as a child to alter my physical appearance than it was for me to change my internal dialogue.  I want to live out my life the way God intended for me to live it, and each time I try and fill myself up with fluff that abates the pain in superficial ways, I only get further from His vision for me.  The truth is, His promise is enough, and I have to commit myself daily to doing what I can to realize it.

The world is preaching love as a solution to the violence and the ugliness that surrounds us.  And they are not wrong.  We need to love each other more.  But I think that the love has to find root in ourselves, and for ourselves, as well.

So do me a favor:  Go to the mirror as soon as you’re done reading this and tell yourself you are a temple.  If it makes you squirm or giggle or uncomfortable, that’s okay.  Tell yourself again.  In fact, write it on your mirror in your favorite lip gloss so you see it when you look at yourself.  Tell yourself you are a temple numerous times a day until you believe it, and keep telling yourself as a reminder.  Tell yourself as often as you need to, to keep the lies and the poisons at bay. Tell yourself you are a temple so often that when someone, including yourself, tries to tell you you are anything less, the lie sounds so ridiculous, you pay it no attention.  Tell yourself you are a temple so often, you see the beauty in others, for they are temples, too, and treat yourself and them, as nothing less.

1 Corinthians 3:17- If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him, for God’s temple is sacred, and you are that temple.


Dressing Up Your Self Esteem

by Veronica Williams

bridesmaidsDon’t you find it interesting that when we put on new clothes how good it makes us feel inside?  It’s as if putting on new things makes us feel clean, shiny and refreshed.  Some might compare this with the feeling we get when we accept the Lord Jesus as our personal savior.

What other things make us feel good inside? A healthy and positive relationship with God as well as the basic things we need in life to nurture our bodies.  Our physical bodies need to be sustained and once this has been achieved we can then consider our spiritual and emotional life.  It might also be argued that in order to have a good and healthy self-esteem we need to feel loved, appreciated and encouraged.  Can we buy the things we need to have a positive self-esteem? I personally don’t think so, thus going shopping for clothes, while it has a ‘feel good factor’ will not enhance our self-esteem for very long.

I like to look and feel good as well as the next person, but have realized that my physical appearance is only a small piece of the picture and I also need to have a spiritually healthy outlook and attitude.  Essentially I am arguing that God needs to be at the center of my life.  I need to be able to praise and communicate with him on a daily basis, and I need to know that he answers and directs my footsteps.

The thought of shopping for my sister’s impending wedding was somewhat daunting.  She had asked her future sister-in-law and our two cousins along with myself to be bridesmaids and we were having a meeting to look at materials and styles for the bridesmaid’s dresses. I believe the fact that we were having a meeting to communicate our individual views and ideas would also offer an opportunity for us to feel included and a sense of being valued in the coming event.  I was loved enough by my sister for her to wish me to be included in her wedding party, I was appreciated and my views would be taken into consideration when we looked at the style and material for the dresses and I was encouraged to understand the importance and significance of marriage in a spiritual context.

In our discussions we considered a variety of factors, not least of which was our body shapes and sizes.  If we think about it, we are all individuals with our own special requirements and physical shape. How we look and how others view our bodies may affect our self-esteem.  If we receive many complements and positive comments about our looks, then we would probably not focus on anything negative in our appearance.  On the other hand, if others are inclined to pointing out our negative qualities this could in time have a detrimental effect on our self-confidence.

I personally believe that we are all attractive and all have certain good qualities. Some people, especially teenagers with changing hormones and body changes, may tend to see the negative in their physical appearance.  I reiterate our hormones may make us moody and even temperamental.  However, if we have the correct moral barometer in place we will be able to accurately assess our individual needs and have an understanding of our internal and external beauty.  There is a chapter in the scriptures (Psalm 45:9) which refers to girls as being daughters of the King.  It says that young woman are essentially princesses with all the connotations that the word implies.

As the bridesmaid meeting progressed we discussed in depth the material which we thought would suit each of our skin color and hair.  We also gained an insight into each others views and preferences.  We agreed on material and color, however we varied in tastes and the length and style of the dresses.  Finally, we decided that all the dresses should be long but we could choose different styles for the bodice. Each of our differing tastes were accommodated!

We all have different tastes and its okay to select or prefer one thing above another.  It reflects that we, in caring about each other’s preferences,  are also showing that we love and care for one another. In having an open discussion we learned more about ourselves and each other and most importantly Christ was at the center of this pre-shopping expedition.



Just Be You

by Jennifer Molitor


girl-with-guitarFull disclosure – I sat down to write this article and immediately freaked out… way too many topics and a touch of anxiety.  You’d have thought I was a broken faucet spewing water every direction. The ideas were fine, but it was that pesky worry that concerned me.  What was that all about? I wanted to write a good piece. Well, duh. Doesn’t everybody? But, reading between the lines, what I’m confessing is that I flashed back to my high school days and thought I hope they like what I have to say and…and I hope they like me.

Hey, the need to be accepted has always been something I’ve had to keep in check, but my guess is that it’s something almost everyone has dealt with at one time or another. That’s not all bad, but what happens when we become so consumed with making everyone else feel good at the expense of losing ourselves? What happens to me?

So, I began sorting through the long list of topics I could write about and then it hit me. Hard. More like “a mosquito bite to the face and I’m a second too late to slap the little guy so my nose takes the brunt of it” kind of hit.  It’s a basic but profound concept that we can all latch onto…“Be you!” That seems simple enough. Just be you. Now, if you’re wondering what this girl is talking about, let me say it a little differently.

As you go about your day, hanging with friends, interacting with customers, tweeting about your plans for Saturday…are you being you? What I’m asking is, are you being the young woman that God created and purposed you to be? As you walk to class, drink a double mocha blended at Starbucks, or hold a door open for a stranger, is the person doing all those things really you or an altered version of you, depending on the situation?

Let me really break this down. For a long time, I was a people pleaser who would act and say things to others in order to ensure acceptance.  Ugh…that full disclosure hurts!  Eventually, I had to ask myself a key question:  How important is it to me to be me?

Matthew 5:13-16 talks about us being salt and light in this world. Two passages that stick out to me are “You are the salt of the earth.” And in verse 16, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” I will be the first to admit that there were times in high school and even in college where my light wasn’t shining the brightest and my salt was close to tasteless. I wasn’t being the me I was created to be, but a person I thought others wanted to see. I eventually knew I had a big decision to make. I had to unplug all the other outlets and to just listen to one source…the voice of God. And what a difference that made in my life!

There is no question that He placed within you a light that shines like no other and flavored you just to spice up the people and places around you. Once you grasp that fact, and start living everyday as yourself, you’ll discover so many wonderful things about you that were once hidden.

There are a few things I’ve learned over the years, a few do’s and dont’s, if you will, that have helped me not to worry so much about others, and stay focused on who God has created me to be.

  • Don’t be or do what’s necessarily “popular” if it causes you to change who you really are.

  • Don’t hide you out of fear of what others think.

  • Don’t let circumstances hold you back because of what others might say or think either. Chances are there will be some people who don’t like what you do, but there will also be those who do. And they are the people to care about.

  • Do believe that your opinion not only counts, but has great value. Whether it’s where you stand morally or what you want on your pizza, what you have to say is important. Don’t be afraid to speak up with the voice that God gave you.

Finally, do believe that YOU are incredible and chosen for things beyond your wildest dreams!

Go out and be strong. Be a blessing. Be loved. Be You.

Fall in Love with YOU: Tips on building Self Esteem

By Akilah C. Thompson

girl-in-mirrorTake a moment to look in the mirror and ask yourself, what do you see?  Your response should be uniqueness, strength and beauty.   Low self- esteem is one of the major challenges people face every day, especially young women.  Images reflected through magazines, television, music and social media have caused us to idolize celebrities and want to look like them.  But what we fail to realize is, a lot of what we see is not real and does not reflect true beauty.  Adobe Photoshop, cosmetic surgery, and professional makeup could make all of us look like superstars. But why would you want to be a copy when you can be an original? We are all made with differences ranging from the color of our skin, to the shape and size of our body. No matter where you are from or what you look like, take pride in who you are and fall in love with everything about you. True beauty lies within. Embrace your originality.


Here are a few tips that will help you build your self-esteem and inner confidence.

Create a daily mantra or affirmation.

Start off every day by saying something positive about yourself. For example: “I am an extraordinary person and I can conquer all things.” By simply telling yourself this, you are creating a mentality and atmosphere that will allow you to be productive and seek goodness in anything you do.  There is power in words. Speak life to yourself.


Celebrate Your Achievements

Do you reflect on your accomplishments and reward yourself?  It takes hard work and dedication to set goals and achieve them.  Every level of success is important and it should be celebrated. Whether it is getting your driver’s license or getting a good grade on an exam, take time to congratulate yourself and enjoy the fruits of your labor. It is not easy to stay determined and complete a goal.  So give yourself a “You Go Girl” in the mirror with a smile, indulge in a tasty dessert or whatever else you do to celebrate and enjoy the moment.


Challenge Yourself

One of the biggest steps to building self-confidence is by conquering your fears. Remember fear is mental! It is F-alse E-vidence A-ppearring R-eal in your mind.  For example, if you dread public speaking, it will be difficult to get over that fear if you don’t force yourself to get up and speak in front of people.  Just by taking the role as a host in a school production, joining a Toastmasters club or even being on the debate team, you can begin to build that confidence. These situations will force you to step outside your comfort zone and help you become stronger in that area.  The same thing you fear now might be the one thing you are supposed to end up being the best at in the future. Never hold yourself back.  Tackling your fears could possibly lead you to your greatest accomplishments.



We all make mistakes and that is a fact.  Life will undoubtedly, have its ups and downs.  The key to dealing with disappointment is learning how to tell yourself everything will be okay when you fall and get back up. Self-motivation is essential. You have to be able to encourage yourself when there is no one around to do it for you. Positive self-talks will help you push through any obstacle you are faced with.  When your conscious tells you “I can’t do this”, you say out loud “Yes I CAN”.  Remember to continue to keep saying “ I am Extraordinary”.  Continue to speak positivity and great things will happen. Also, surround yourself with positive people that give off good vibes, keep you motivated and want to see you succeed. With an “I CAN” attitude and supportive friends, you will be equipped to overcome any obstacle in your path.


Eat Right and Stay Fit

Eating healthy and exercising is another way to boost your self -confidence.  When you are eating right and exercising regularly you will start to glow, feeling good about the person in the mirror. If you look better, you will feel better about yourself. Eating fruits, vegetables, good carbs and a variety of lean meats allows your body to maintain strong bones and gain energy. Exercising keeps the body active and working at the best of its ability.  Keep in mind that exercising does not necessarily mean getting a gym membership.  You can ride a bike, jog around in your neighborhood, go swimming or even pull up a dance video on YouTube and get sweating! Make healthy eating choices while staying active and you will see your confidence soar as people continuously compliment you on how great you look.


BE YOU……Don’t Compare

Embrace the person you are. Nobody’s perfect, we all have flaws and faults and that’s what makes us human. Your values, gifts, perspectives, voice and physical features make you one of a kind. UNIQUE! Express your voice and showcase your talents, don’t let anyone bring you down.  Stop comparing yourself to others because you are the way you are for a reason. Laugh harder and smile brighter because you have something to offer the world. Be comfortable in your own skin and accept both your external and internal beauty.

Confidence brings light to your inner self. Define what makes you different and create your own personal style. At the end of the day, there is no one like you and you should love being you. Be grateful for the life you live and strive to be a light for others in the world.

My Body, My Food, My Way

My Body, My Food, My Way

Quick Tips To Fit Into The Body You Were Born With
By Laura Cipullo, RD, CDE

food plateOne of the best parts about being a registered dietitian is hearing my clients’ success stories and knowing that they were able to change their lives using a non-diet approach to their health.

Just yesterday, a client wrote to tell me her thoughts on one session we had, during which I educated her on the concept of “intuitive Eating.” No longer does this client use a scale, and she feels better than ever. She described the result like that of Harry Potter—magical.

Another client texted me two weeks ago to tell me that she never thought she could be a certain size by eating all foods, especially having recovered from an eating disorder. If ever there were proof that diets don’t work, this is it. It is far more important to feed yourself with love and confidence, and to view food as fuel. This is the most helpful and liberating approach to creating personal balance and ideal health. In other words, rather than wondering day after day how to fit into a pair of skinny jeans from the 90’s, ask yourself, “How can I accept and love the jeans I am wearing?”

Teenagers are among the most obvious victims of mixed messages, perhaps while watching mom try on clothing in front of the mirror or their best friends in the fitting room. There’s also the fact that teens are exposed to myriad magazines, with homogenous photos and captions that define beauty in a single, often unattainable way. The avenues for comparing oneself to friends, family and even complete strangers are many and varied, and when combined, their comprehensive effect can be truly detrimental to their psyche.

As a registered dietitian, I like to emphasize the fact that everyone grows at a different rate based on different emotional and nutritional needs. Our genetics and our environment affect our bodies, and while we can perhaps change our surroundings, we cannot—and should not try to—change our DNA.

Instead of longing for a body that is not genetically possible, look in the mirror and see yourself as a whole. You are not pieces or body parts; rather you are a beautiful young woman.

Start by saying, “I am okay. I am enough.” Then identify one or two things you like about yourself. Perhaps it is the shape of your ears or the color of your eyes. Whatever it is, simply give yourself credit and recognize that your body is ever-changing and possesses nutritional needs that may be different than that of your friends—let alone different than they were last year.

Next, think about all of your internal qualities. Perhaps you are funny, sensitive and shy. Maybe you are the life of the party in your small group of friends. Or maybe, you have just a few good friends, but they value you because you are sensitive and listen when they need your support. What does this mean in terms of self-worth? This will differ from one person to the next. Translate it. Recognize that you are worthy.

When it comes to maintaining a balanced and nutritious lifestyle, consider the concept of thinking inside your body rather than listening to the outside. While the idea sounds strange, the act is quite straightforward; all you have to do is identify when your body wants to eat and why.

There are three types of hunger: physical, emotional and behavioral. Are you eating because you feel physically hungry and need to fuel yourself? Or are you bored while doing your homework and just noshing to pass the time? The goal is, whenever possible, to eat for physical reasons only. Of course, it is okay to sometimes eat for emotional or behavioral reasons too, however, if you find yourself eating for this reason often, consider talking to your parent, your school counselor or a therapist.

Eating for physical reasons is easier than you think. Try:

  • Eating regularly, meaning every 3 to 4 hours.
  • Balancing each meal. Be sure to include the 3 macronutrients—carbohydrates, proteins and fats—in some form during breakfast, lunch and dinner. A mixed meal may consist of whole-wheat pasta with salmon and olives (a carbohydrate, protein and fat).
  • Incorporating at least 2 of the 3 macronutrients when snacking. This might be an apple with hummus (a carbohydrate and fat) or crackers with cheese (a carbohydrate and protein).
  • Not to deny yourself. If you want a cookie, just have it rather than trying to eat diet foods or 10 little things that probably will not satisfy you. In the end, you just end up eating the cookie anyway, so give yourself permission now and move on with it.

Following these parameters and consuming this combination of food regularly is important for a number of reasons. For one, it helps to keep your energy and mood stable throughout the day. In addition, by never allowing yourself to feel as though you are starving, you also prevent yourself from binging or eating until your belly hurts.

Getting yourself to the point of intuitive eating, when you eat for physical reasons naturally takes time. Approach eating with a mindset of body acceptance, and in time you will thank yourself. Work with the body you were born with, accept whatever you can, and feed your body appropriately. Doing so will actually keep your metabolism efficient, your energy high and your body in tune. This type of self-care will allow you to be your best through adolescence and adulthood!

Break the Vicious Cycle – Four Ways to More Confidence

Break the Vicious Cycle – Four Ways to More Confidence

confident teenLife coach Terri Savelle Foy, author of Make Your Dreams Bigger than Your Memories, shares her top tips for building confidence.

We all have moments of self-doubt and things we do not like about ourselves. But all too often, our self-criticism results in a poor self-image. Especially in times where media defines unreachable standards of being normal or beautiful it is hard for young women to build and keep their self-confidence. This leads to insecurities about all aspects of our lives, no matter if it is our body, our appearance or our weight. No matter what you feel insecure about, it can lead to negative and painful experiences which will bring your self esteem even further down. It is a vicious cycle which will make you dislike yourself and wish you were somebody else. At this point, you are an open playground for others to walk over you.

What you need to break the cycle is self-confidence. Simply put, being confident means to have a positive self-image and to trust yourself. Your degree of self-confidence – as well as insecurity – affects everything in your life from the way you dress to the way you talk about yourself, and your behavior towards your family and friends. Becoming more self-confident – easier said than done. These four tips will help you to improve you self-image:

Focus on your strengths. You see all your imperfections, but others do not see them as nearly as clearly. In fact, we all have tons of strengths that overweight these imperfections. We just have to uncover them. Make a list and write down all the things you are good at and which you like about yourself. No matter if you can sing or draw very well, if you got a good grade in your last exam or if your friends like you because you are a good listener – write everything down and be proud of it!

Use the power of your words. Don’t bring yourself down with words. “I’ll never be able to improve my grade in math.” “I’m always the last one chosen.” “I always make that mistake.” Words like these can bring you down more than you think. If you saw a person saying such mean things to your best friend, you would probably want to tell them to stop. So why should you accept that kind of behavior from yourself? Instead of bringing yourself down, make a list of positive confessions to speak over yourself. “I am confident and smart.” “I am creative, cool and communicative.” “I do not hide.” Read them out loud and build up your confidence with every time you say them.

Set Goals. Having goals will help you to keep your positive self-image. Instead of looking back at times when you felt insecure, you will look forward to the great opportunities which are waiting for you in the future. So write down your goals for the areas of your life that are important to you. Maybe your goal is get a B in your next exam? Or to go running at least two times per week? With your goals in mind you will be able to see results and discover how much you are able to achieve.
Get a new look: Lay aside your old style that represents your insecurities. This does not necessarily mean to spend a lot of money. Style your hair differently, get a fancy nail polish or simply add a scarf to your outfit. Do whatever you need to do to feel pretty, confident, strong and independent.

About Terri
Terri Savelle Foy is an author, minister, life coach, and inspirational speaker who helps individuals learn how to use the power of prayer to overcome past experiences or bad habits that are preventing them from leading fulfilling lives. Through her visual messages, her honesty about her own weaknesses, and her funny personality, Terri proves  that overcoming bad habits, destructive relationships, and self-doubt is a critical, achievable goal. Her most recent book, Make Your Dreams Bigger than Your Memories (Regal, 2010), walks readers step by step toward a more rewarding future.

Picking A Perfect Pair of Glasses

Picking A Perfect Pair of Glasses


girl with glassesChoosing a pair of glasses is not an easy task. You have a different kind of look than an adult and there are certain attributes you need to keep in mind while purchasing a pair of glasses. You have to find a pair that looks trendy or stylish enough that you will actually wear them. Glasses become a focal point, being one of the first things noticed about you, so it’s important to choose eyeglasses that flatter you and are consistent with the image you want to portray.

Another factor that can make shopping for glasses overwhelming is the number of places to find them. How do you sort through which place is the best?! We like www.Glasses.com since it offers a price guarantee and they have a number of reputable brands that are available at discount prices (Oakley, Smith Optics, SPY). There is also a nifty virtual try-on feature that people can use to get an idea of what frames look like on their face before making a purchase!

The pair of glasses you wear must reflect your personality. Don’t try to force a style on yourself-take the time to find a pair that is truly you! If you are a calm, conservative person by nature, you should probably avoid bright colors or super trendy styles. A safer bet for you would be classic frameless or light-looking glasses. If you like dramatic, “loud” clothes and accessories you should go for statement eyeglasses as well. Try bold colors, exaggerated design details and heavy-looking frames.

You should feel confident when you wear your glasses, so if you are considering a pair that makes you concerned about how peers will react to them, then you probably should not get them. You should have peace, not anxiety, about wearing these glasses in public.

Keep in mind your lifestyle as well. If you have to wear the frame for long durations, then the glasses should be light. If you spend most of your time engaged in physical activities, then the frames must be strong enough to handle the accidental shocks and scratches they will surely endure.

The color of your eyes and skin tone, your body scale and the shape of your face are always an important consideration in selecting frames. Light colors in frames and having rimless styles tend to bring about a balance in complexion and appearance. But, you should also consider the best color range for your skin tone and the color of clothes you wear most often. Choose glasses that keep with your body scale and the size of your facial features. For example, if you have a small body scale then choose frames with a small to medium-thick frame.

If you have an oval face with balanced proportions you will probably be best complemented by frames that are wider than the broadest part of your face. (The oval shape is at an advantage because many frames of prescription glasses are just suited for them and can work out well.) If you have a pear or triangle face shape choose a frame that is as wide as your jaw line. If you have a more square face with a broad forehead, try a frame that has a wider bottom.

Style Makeover HQ gives a great guideline for selecting eyeglasses based on facial features:

When we choose glasses that repeat an element within our facial features it emphasizes that feature and makes it more prominent. The aim is to reflect the features that we want to accentuate and not to repeat the features we wish to minimize.

The “trick” is to work out your dominant facial characteristics and their attributes. Look at each of your features: your face shape (sides of face, jaw line and hairline); eyes; eyebrows; nose (sides and tip); and mouth (resting and smiling). Is your face made up of more curves than angles or vice versa? Are your features evenly placed in your face? Are your features large or small?

Work out which facial feature or features you want to reinforce and repeat it in the same scale and proportions in your glasses. For example, to emphasize a square jaw and angles in your facial features choose square corners on the frame. To emphasize a rounded jaw line, almond eyes and a similarly shaped mouth choose the same shape in the eyes of the eyeglass frames.

And work out which features you wish to minimize. Examples of balancing facial features with eyewear design elements include…

    • To minimize a large nose choose a wider, low set bridge
    • To make a square or round face appear longer make sure the frames are as wide as the face and choose frames that are narrower than they are wide
    • To make an oblong or rectangle face appear shorter choose frames that have depth to them. Wider arms also reduce the perceived length of a face
    • To make close-set eyes appear further apart choose glasses where the bridge is not emphasized, for example the bridge is thin or in a light color”

Keep in mind that some prescriptions may require a minimum or maximum frame depth or thickness of glass, placing limitations on frames that you can pick.  Be sure to check on this before starting your selection process.

No matter what kind of frame you choose or the hours you wear that pair, you must have regular eye exams. At your age, there are bound to be changes in your vision and even the slightest change must be reflected in the prescription of your glasses.

The task can seem daunting, but have fun with picking out glasses! Look to compliment your favorite features and don’t try to hide behind your frames. You will probably have your glasses for a while, so don’t settle. Find a pair that is exactly what you want and that is perfectly you!