Chit Chat with Singer Sammi Rae Murciano

Written by:  Jill Sheets
16-year-old Singer/Song writer, Sammi Rae’s career, is taking off.  I can see this talented, Long Island, New York native, ending up with a long and amazing career. Continue reading on about her and her music, her influences and what advice she would give teens.  Don’t for to keep an eye on her as her career grows.

 

R: Tell us about yourself and how you got into the music business?

S: Hi my name is Sammi Rae Murciano, I am a 16-year-old singer / songwriter from Long Island, NY. I always loved to sing. I was in chorus and had a solo. Being in front of an audience and performing, was an amazing feeling. I knew this was what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.

 

R: Tell us about your song “Reflection.”  

S:  Reflection is a very meaningful song that I wrote that looks back at my own personal life experiences. This song is about how I was bullied and all of the hardships I faced, but as a result, I overcame it and became stronger.

 

R: What current music are you working on music wise?  What about cover videos?

S: My single Reflection is out now on iTunes and Spotify. Also, I have two new original songs that are also a part of my EP that I will be releasing in the fall. I will also be releasing music videos for my new original songs. I recently released a cover and music video for Martin Garrix and Dua Lipa’s song Scared To Be Lonely which is on YouTube.

 

R: How do you come up with the ideas for the videos?

S: The way I come up with the ideas for my videos are by really connecting it with the song’s lyrics so that it can portray the message in the song.

 

R: I read that you also write your music.  What is the writing process?  Do you start with the words and how do you come up with the ideas for the songs?

S: When writing an original song, I think about the concept and meaning of the song. Sometimes it’s just in the moment and I write thoughts in my journal which I then turn into a song. A lot of my songs are based on my personal life experiences. They mean so much to me because I am able to express my feelings in a song and help others through difficult times with the message that these songs are portraying.

 

R: Do you have any up and coming plans on recording an album or EP?

S: I have my single “Reflection” out now on iTunes and Spotify. Along with that, I have an EP coming out this fall. This EP will show people a very difficult time in my life that I overcame. I want this EP to inspire others and help them through difficult times in their life.

 

R: Where can people hear or get your music?

S: People can hear my music on iTunes, Spotify, and YouTube. People can also hear me perform live at many different venues.

iTunes:  http://apple.co/2vD3rlC

Spotify: http://spoti.fi/2uDvMuR

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC66ZUFn9ZMCkKb5Ge6LPTKg

 

R: Who has been your biggest influence?

S: Someone who is a major influence to me is my mom. She is the most amazing and caring person. I am so thankful for her endless support. She is always there for me and I’m so lucky to have her in my life and know that I always have someone by my side. She has taught me so much but most importantly to never give up on my dreams. My musical influences are Beyoncé, Demi Lovato, James Arthur, Justin Bieber, Adele and many more.

 

R: What are five things you cannot live without?

S: Five things I can’t live without are my incredible family, my amazing dog Ziggy, music, singing, and my computer.

 

R:  What are your future goals?

S: My future goals are to release more original music, go on tour and perform all over the world. Another goal of mine is to be able to inspire others around the world that if you are passionate about something, you should always follow your dreams.

 

R: What are five things people may not know about you?

S: Five things people may not know about me would be that my name is Samantha Rachel but I go by Sammi Rae, I play basketball, I have two brothers, I performed at Foxwoods and it was an amazing experience, and I have a scar on my left arm.

 

R: It is not easy being a teenager today.  What advice would you give them in general?

S: Some advice I would give teenagers is to live your life to the fullest. Never let anyone bring you down or tell you that you can’t do something. Always follow your heart and never give up on your dreams. If you put your mind to it, you can achieve anything!

 

R: Are you on any social networking sites?  If so, which ones and what are their address?  Do you have an official website and/or YouTube page?

S: I am on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. I also have a YouTube channel and an official website.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sammi_murciano/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/sammi_murciano?lang=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sammi.murciano/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC66ZUFn9ZMCkKb5Ge6LPTKg

Website: https://www.sammiraemurciano.com

 

R: Is there anything else you would like to add or say to your fans?

S: I would like to say to my fans that I am so thankful for them and all of their support. I would love for them to continue this journey with me!

 

R:  Sammi, thank you for the interview.  It was an honor.  Have a great day.

S: Thank you so much Relate Magazine!

 

How To Make The Choices That Matter

The younger you are, the bigger the future will seem to you. However, the future doesn’t suddenly shrink with your age – when you get older, the future seems as big and bright as you were when you were fourteen! However, with age, we get a bit more realistic, and we might accept that some ideas are just dreams. Youth is where this changes, as with the right planning, you can make your dreams come true. Certainly so if you are grounded and ready to put the work in. Some big choices are coming.

The first huge choice that people make in their young lives is a college degree. Sometimes, that choice comes earlier when kids choose specialized high schools to enroll with. This all hinges on the area of life that you want to learn about and specialize in. Sometimes, the choice of college is just as big of a degree, but what you choose to study is important, and often more so than where you choose to study it. It’s never too early to start thinking about your major or degree, and there’s plenty online to learn. You can examine and explore the career prospects that come with degrees. You can even find out who makes what in terms of income based on their degree. You can also study online with courses like the online MBA in Healthcare Management, so it’s not just research you can perform. Question what you want to do with your life and find courses and majors that can propel you in the right direction. It’s not just online, consult with school and college counselors and make the right decision – doing what you want to do.

It’s difficult, because college is followed by a huge decision. College degrees fall in line with a future line of work, but this is not always the case. No matter what you choose to do with your education, you will have to choose a line of work at some point. Sometimes, this might not be what you have studied – so research career paths and see how your skills could take you up that path. This might mean you need to jump into internships and the like, but once you find the right path for you find ways to climb it.

There are a lot of big decisions to make in life, and as you get older you might get worried. You might get cold feet and think about changing your mind. If this happens, it’s no bother. You are never too old to pursue a new path in life as long as you start again and follow the correct path of doing your research.

These decisions are stressful to make, and that’s only right – because they will be a big part of what defines your future. However, if you take the decisions needed for your future seriously and do your research and make balanced decisions, you’ll do alright. Remember that changing your mind is not an issue, as long as you do one thing – you guessed it. Do your research!

It’s Not Too Late To Put The ‘U’ Back Into Your Summer Break

The beginning of summer was all about fun, fun, fun. By now, though, you’re probably wishing that you’d made more of this opportunity to better yourself. Well, given that the new school/college/university year is still a few weeks away, you still have time.

Here are just five phenomenal ways to maximize productivity throughout the rest of your summer. Use that time wisely to…

 

#1. Look & Feel Your Best

If you’re planning to take time out to focus on becoming the best possible version of you, your appearance is the first place to start. It may seem a little vain, and looks aren’t everything in this world. Still, there’s no denying that feeling your best bring many rewards.

Reinventing your style with a little retail therapy can help. However, your first focus should be on your natural appearances. Start using a hyaluronic acid serum to get your skin looking better than ever. The confidence and happiness gained from doing this are second to none.

The increased recreational time is also the perfect moment to start getting fit. Whether you join a gym or find fun home workouts is entirely up to you. Either way, hitting those body goals will fill you with happiness.

 

#2. Seek Work Experience

While the academic year is on a break, you might not be thinking too much about your future career. This is a huge error of judgment, however, because you have a wonderful opportunity to seek an advantage over your future competition.

Unpaid internships may not feel overly attractive right now, especially as they mean you’ll be giving up a large section of your leisure time. The rewards are plentiful, though, and could help point you towards your future dream job. Besides, you never know who you might connect to during that work experience.

Alternatively, you could look for paid work in an unrelated field. You might not be working towards your dream job, but it’ll still prepare you for a far better career.

 

#3. Invest In Your Future

Working on a short-term contract with no long-term guarantees may not appeal to everyone. But there are other ways to start building towards your future career. With the extra time on your hands, you could take the time to write a better resume or build a portfolio website.

Alternatively, you could launch a business of your own. Thanks to the benefits of online interactions, an increasing number of teenagers are carving a name for themselves. Even if you don’t gain the riches that you’d love, the lessons you’ll gain could have a telling impact on your future.

Finally, you could look at learning a new skill. In today’s climate, being bilingual is more attractive than ever. Add another language to your repertoire, and it will pay dividends for your future.

 

#4. Prepare For The School Year Ahead

There is still plenty of time left this summer, but the new academic year is still fast approaching. Whether you’re heading off to college for the first time or will be a returning student doesn’t matter. Putting yourself one step ahead of the game will be very rewarding.

Ultimately, you want to reduce the stress so that you can concentrate on studying. In truth, financial elements are likely to be the biggest problem. Learning how to save money with couponing and other tips for students will work wonders. Aside from the physical gains, it’ll give you peace of mind.

All academic years are important, but there’s no doubt that some are more crucial than others. If you’re entering a big one, there’s nothing wrong with sourcing textbooks or thinking about projects at this early stage. You could even find graduates online and ask for their support. Anything that provides an advantage can only be positive.

 

#5. Help People Out

The rest of the summer should be committed to making personal improvements. Sometimes, however, helping others is the best way to help yourself.

This can manifest itself in many different forms. Having said that, spending time with senior citizens is one of the most mutually beneficial. While they will take a lot of comfort from your visits, they’ll also repay you with valuable lessons and knowledge. Moreover, there’s nothing quite like the feeling of happiness that comes from helping someone in need.

If this isn’t your bag, helping out at charity events or signing up for one yourself can be equally wonderful. Seriously, the confidence boost you’ll gain is massive. And it should prepare you nicely for the coming academic year.

 

My Parents are Getting a Divorce

Whether you’re five, fifteen or thirty, the news that your parents are getting a divorce is never going to be insignificant. Even if ending their marriage will ultimately make life easier, divorce means big changes for everyone. As a teenager, accustomed to living at home with both parents, you’re bound to be affected in some way and it’s more than likely you’ll have questions, fears and worries to respond to.

You’re not alone

The first thing to bear in mind is that you’re not alone. Unfortunately, many U.S. marriages, for a whole host of reasons, end in divorce. According to Pew Research Center, while divorce figures for 25 to 39 year olds are going down, divorce for 40+ adults is rising and these are the marriages most likely to include teenage children.

Also, according to family law help in Scottsdale, some couples choose to pursue legal separation rather than filing for divorce, and so the number of teenagers who experience parental separation may indeed be higher than the official figures reveal.

Common fears and concerns

Safe in the knowledge that you’re not the only young girl in the world with parents who are getting a divorce, you should also know that you’re not the only one with worries and concerns about the future.

Love and commitment don’t last

You might be feeling the need to protect yourself from further heartache. It might seem like the safer option to avoid growing attached to anyone from now on, but that will only make you feel more isolated in the long-term. It’s true that not all love lasts forever, but sometimes it does. Indeed, just because your parents have fallen out of love with each other, don’t assume that they don’t love you or that they won’t be committed to you forever.

And remember, whether love and commitment last or not, the beauty of the feeling lies in the simple opportunity we get to experience it, however long it lasts.

I too will fail at marriage

Just because your parents’ marriage hasn’t worked doesn’t mean that yours won’t either. Every partnership and every situation is different. There’s nothing written in the future to suggest you won’t be able to live a long and happy marriage and there’s nothing wrong with taking your time before you choose to marry in order to make sure you’re making the very best of decisions.

Maybe I could have done something

It’s a natural reaction to think that as the daughter you could have done more to help about the house or to bring your parents together. This simply isn’t the case. For whatever reason, your parents’ marriage broke down because of something that happened between them; something that you couldn’t have prevented or fixed under any circumstances.

What you can do

While there’s nothing you can do to change the situation between your parents, there’s plenty you can do to avoid further heartache. Regular communication and finding the positives are two excellent places to begin.

Talk

Don’t be afraid of talking through your feelings with friends, family or even mom and dad. Keeping things bottled up inside always makes them seem worse. You may also find that by airing your worries, solutions are presented to you. Two heads are normally better than one.

Enjoy the positives

While you might not have your mom and dad by your side every day, you may find that by spending time with them individually you begin to connect with them on a much deeper level. Suggest different things you can do together – places you can visit and activities you can try – to make the time you spend with each one as memorable as possible.

Building A Better Body Image – 5 Things Every Late Teen Should Know

Body image is a priority for all, but carries an even greater significance for young adults. Not only does looking good make us feel good. It additionally has a huge impact on the way others view us, which further influences self-confidence and other features.

There’s no better time to start your positive body transformation. After all, it’s easier to make those changes while you’re still young. But before you do, it’s imperative that you equip yourself with the necessary knowledge to gain great results. Here’s everything you need to know.

Negative influences will take their toll. This is the stage of your life where you may be more likely to fall into the traps of alcohol consumption. There’s nothing wrong with a night out on the town, however, trading some of those beverages for mocktails can bring huge rewards. They are still fun in social settings but don’t come with the consequences of alcohol.

Your body can use a boost during those early stages. If you want to gain a better body, there’s a strong chance that you have made past mistakes. An organic detox tea can aid your general well being to leave you feeling healthier than ever. This is the perfect foundation for building a successful workout and healthy eating plan too. Apart from anything else, those two breaks for a cuppa give you a great chance to reflect and plan things.

Motivation is everything. If working out feels like a chore, you will not keep it up for the long haul. Therefore, finding ways to stay motivated throughout your workouts is key. Whether it’s in the gym or on the track, this will have a telling impact on the efficiency of those activities. Most importantly, though, you need to ensure that skipped sessions don’t become a regular feature. When this happens, progress will be slowed. Consequently, that will send the likelihood of giving up through the roof.

The human body changes with age. Puberty affects everyone differently. Therefore, you may just need to accept that the body you had during your early teens simply isn’t possible. Learn to love the skin you’re in by focusing on achieving the best possible version of you. Ultimately, if you can achieve this goal, then the opinions of anybody else become redundant. If that doesn’t allow you to become the happy and healthy person, what will?

It’s not all about your body. In truth, your facial features will always be the key to feeling your best. While girls will want to perfect their makeup rituals, boys just need to focus on good grooming. Clothing is an equally important element as your fashion choices are what bring the style and look to life. Whether you create your own personal appearance or borrow ideas from celebs doesn’t matter. Whatever you do, though, ensuring that those outfits fit is crucial.

Late Teen Talk: How To Rediscover Your Way In Life After A Period Of Feeling Lost

The years after leaving school are very exciting, and can provide some of the best of the moments of your life. On the other hand, the uncertainties can also serve up a whole host of problems. This can leave many people feeling a little unsure of where they are heading. If you’ve fallen into this cycle of nothingness, finding a quick return to the right pathway is key.

No two people are identical, and you will need to find your own pathway. But here are four of the most common issues, along with what you can do to overcome those hurdles.

 

Taking Control Of Your Health

Those early years of independence are full of temptations. From excessive drinking to smoking and unhealthy eating, they can bring a variety of health issues. If you’re feeling unsatisfied and unhappy with your current situation, there’s a good chance that your image and health are the chief reasons.

Whether it’s joining a gym, drinking in a more balanced way, or paying attention to mental health doesn’t matter. Ensure that you are doing enough for your immediate and long-term needs. When you see positive outcomes here, it will influence other aspects too.

Finding A Career Path

For many youngsters, the attraction of getting any paid job is hard to ignore in those early moments after school graduation. Paying your way in life is a wonderful thing while those roles can provide great life experiences too. However, it isn’t uncommon to realize that you want more.

It’s never too late to resume your education. Community college offers a great opportunity to gain the qualifications needed for a career in your desired field. Moreover, the flexibility means that you can still attend to those other life goals and responsibilities. Knowing that you’re moving in the right direction will make the future a lot brighter.

Surrounding Yourself With The Right People

Human interaction will always be a pivotal aspect of your life. It’s natural to lose contact with friends during those post-school years. As long as you maintain contact with the people that matter most, you’ll be just fine. This is a time where relationships often end too, dealing with them in a positive way is key. Otherwise, the negative fallout could disrupt your progress for years.

Nothing is quite as important as your family, though. Repairing broken relationships can take time, but it will make life for more wholesome. That clarity can then spearhead your journey towards other goals too.

 

Building A Happy Home Life

Happiness begins at home. For some people in the 18-24 category, that means living with parents. For others, that will mean finding an affordable apartment or house share. Either way, ensuring that you feel comfortable here is key. Because if you can’t smile in your own home, where can you?

Being responsible enough to maintain good relationships with household members makes life easier. Meanwhile, learning to complete basic DIY chores can have a telling influence. A happy home is a human fundamental. Achieve success here, and you’ll instantly feel that your world feels more secure.

 

Chit Chatting with Bryce Gheisar

Written by:  Jill Sheets

Picture source: Keith Munyan

Each interview is a blessing to me.  I love what I do. Recently, I got to do an interview with 12-year-old actor Bryce Gheisar. This talented young man started acting at the age of 8.  Continue to read on and learn more about him, his movies and shows and what his future goals are.

 

R: Tell us a little bit about yourself and how you got into acting?

B: I’m 12. I was born in Plano, Texas. I got into acting when I was 8. I’ve always loved performing. After going to my first acting class, I thought it was really cool. I have always loved watching movies, and how movies come together. I actually paid for half of my first acting class. I would like to start back up in classes soon. I am going to go to some classes in July.

 

R: Tell us about the movie “Wonder” and your character Julian.

B: I actually read the book when I was in third grade. I remember really loving the story. It’s such a heartwarming story. It is about a boy that has a facial difference. A lot of people make fun of him and he has to overcome it. I play Julian the main bully. Julian is very selfish, and he really doesn’t think about other people. He really hurts others, but it doesn’t register with him how badly he is hurting them.  I give him a really tough time, and he overcomes that, and makes friends. He soon triumphs and makes a tons of friends at school.

 

R: What was the audition process like?

B: It is a funny story actually. I auditioned for this movie two years ago for the part of Augie when I was 8, and then I auditioned a second time two years later for the part of Jack Will, and they wanted me to audition for Julian. They really liked me as Julian, and I got the part. I was so excited to get to this part because I loved this book back in third grade.

 

R: Tell us about “Into the Who Knows!” and about your character Thomas.

B: It is a story about a kid named Thomas who is stuck in his imaginary world. He has an imaginary friend named Felix who is a fox. He has a hard time making real friends. His parents want him to grow up so they send him to summer camp. They want him to make friends, but he decides to go across the lake to a place called the Who Knows. His imagination ends up takes him on a roller coaster of adventures.

 

R: You play Ethan in “A Dog’s Purpose.” Tell us about the movie and your character.

B:  It’s about a dog that goes through multiple lives with different families. He learns through his different lives how to save people and how to love them as well. He saves all his owners by being their best friends, and being there for him. I play Ethan; an all American boy who is going through some rough times with his parents. His dad is an alcoholic, and his mom is worrying about his dad, and I really just need a best friend. It’s a great story about how I become best friends with my dog, and how he is there for me.

 

R: Do you have any up and coming projects that you would like to talk about?

B: I am on break right now. We just finished the second season of Walk the Prank. We are waiting to see if the third season will be picked up, so really excited for that.  I am enjoying my off time in Texas. I am also auditioning here and there for upcoming roles. I will be back to work in a couple months.

 

R: If they were to remake your favorite movie, which one would it be?  What character would you play and who would you like to play opposite of you?

B: Harry Potter is one of my favorites, I would want to play Harry. I have a good friend Matthew McCann. We have grown up in acting together, and we went to classes all the time together in Texas. It would be awesome if we could be in a project together. I would want him to play Ron. That would be fun.

 

R: What is the best advice you have ever gotten?

B: My mom always tells me “If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door” I have always loved that quote because it goes so well with acting. I went through tons of auditions, and this quote helped me get through them all.

 

R: Who has been your biggest influence?

B:  My dad because he is so hardworking, I like the stories he tells me about how he used to get up very early and practice Tae Kwon Do. He worked hard and practiced all the time to become the best he could be at it.

 

R: What are some of your future goals?

B: It has always been my dream to win an Academy Award, because I feel like that’s when you know you have worked really hard and you are successful actor.

 

R: Do you have any charities or causes that are close to your heart?  If so, tell us about them?

B: I am a part of Dallas Pets Alive. They are a no kill organization. They foster dogs until they can find a home for them. In Austin, you are not allowed to euthanize any dogs. Dallas is working to make the county a completely kill free zone. I am the organization’s first ambassador. I help out with raising money for them. I really want to do anything I can for animals and animals organizations. I also want to help out with children’s organizations more. In the upcoming months, I am going to be helping out at a local children’s hospital.

 

R: Other than this one, what is the strangest question you have ever been asked?

B: One time when I was at Sky Zone and this little girl asked me if I was a billionaire.

 

R: What are five things people may not know about you?

B: 1.My favorite food is pasta. 2. I was born in Plano, Texas 3. I enjoy doing all kinds or art and drawing. 4. Ever since I was younger I enjoyed doing martial arts. I am about to start an MMA class. 5. I quit competitive gymnastics to start acting full time, but I was doing for gymnastics for 4 years.

 

R: Are you on any social networking sites?  If so, which ones and what are their addresses?  Do you have an official website and/ or YouTube page?

B: @Brycegheisar for all social media. I would like to have a website soon, but not yet.

 

R: Is there anything else you would like to add or say to your fans?

B: Tune into season 2 of “Walk the Prank.” Go check out “Wonder,” coming into theaters on November 17, and go get “A Dog’s Purpose” on DVD. Thank you so much for all of your support.

 

R: Bryce, thank you for the interview.  It was an honor.  Have a great day.

How To Stay In Control Of Your Cash

When you’re just starting out in the world of work and education, you’ve got a big shot at life. No matter your circumstances, your relationship with money will define your future, your level of stability and security, and of course – the rest of your life. We’re sorry to say, but money really does make the world go round, and you could lock yourself out of a future and enter a world of financial insecurity if you are not careful with cash. If money makes the world go round, you can easily find yourself lost in that same cycle.

The good news though? You’re young, and you’re just starting out, and you have the internet. This means you’ve got time, opportunities and knowledge on your side (if you choose to read up and learn, that is). This means that you can avoid making financial mistakes and that you can – for the most part – develop a healthy relationship with money quite easily. The key? It’s to never let your spending outweigh your earnings. Doing that and spending with reckless abandon? It’s an easy path into pointless debt. It’s an easy path to financial misery.

People will get into debt. When you take a loan or finance place to fund a car purchase after passing your test, you’ll be in debt to the provider of the finance. When you get your mortgage, you’re in debt with the lender. When you take out a loan to fund a business venture, you’ll be in debt. This, for the most part, can be seen as good debt. It’s debt that is acquired for a purpose. What’s bad debt? Well it has a different definition in business, but to us, it’s that debt you acquire with high-interest values because you can’t hold yourself back from spending. It’s payday loans; it is credit cards.

Debt is a real danger and for a number of reasons. Debt, of any size will affect our credit rating. This can affect the future of a young person quite drastically. It can mean that you are rejected from having a mobile phone contract. It can mean that your mortgage is turned down. It can seriously affect any future decisions you choose to make. Debt also creates emotional stress and worry. Debt isn’t the end of the story, we all get into debt – it’s how we pay it off that matters.

Being in debt isn’t a bad thing – it is when we choose to live in debt that things turn nasty. There are always methods to paying off debts and anyone that you owe will rather that some attempt at paying can be made. When you are in debt, you will always have options like student loan forgiveness. Getting stressed about being in debt can quickly lead to one avoiding paying their way out of debt.

To stay in control of your cash, you need to manage debt and manage your spend. This can be hard for youngsters – because they are explicitly targeted by those who seek to profit from debt. However, control of cash is an invaluable skill for anyone.

Life Experiences That Will Make You A Better Adult

When you look at successful people – be it success in their careers, their relationships, or just a general serenity in their lives – it’s easy to wonder how they managed it. For many young people, the idea of adulthood is something that is terrifying. We may crave the ability to make our own way in the world, but who wants to saddle themselves with the responsibilities of what’s colloquially referred to as “adulting”?

It therefore makes sense to aim to be one of those people who seems to have got this whole life business sorted out. The question is – how did they get there?

There is a common thought in philosophy that we are all the product of our experiences. It is the things we live – rather than the basics that we are born with – that make our life what it is. There are things we can learn as we experience them; things we can do to prompt our minds’ to travel in the right direction. If you go through one of these experiences in your formative years, then it might just make a huge difference to how that adult life you both revere and fear comes to pass.

1) Travel

Traveling is not without its perils. It can be tiring, worrying, or just seem like a lot of effort. However, there is something about expanding your horizons that alters the way you see things when you come back home.

The experience you need to glean from traveling is not going to come from the seven-day beach holidays you may be accustomed to. Consider more “earthed” experiences like backpacking or taking part in mission trips for youth groups – something that gives you more of a chance of a genuine connection with the places you see, and the people you meet.

It’s also a good idea to travel away from the normal tourist traps. Experience a different part of the world, not the polished “for tourists” areas that have a ring of inauthenticity.

 

2) Go To Therapy

If you don’t have a particular problem, then the idea of therapy might seem like a strange one. However, sometimes the most productive therapeutic sessions come about when the patient doesn’t think they have anything to say – but it turns out, there’s a river of thoughts they need to dissect and discuss.

Therapy doesn’t have to be about fixing a problem. It can be about helping you on your journey in the best way possible. It provides a neutral perspective on the things you experience and can help you get the most out of them, as well as helping you over any of the blips on the road.

 

3) Learn For The Sake Of Learning

As a young adult, you might feel you have had your fill of learning. Up until this point, your life has been about mandatory attendance and learning about subjects you might have no interest in.

As an adult, it’s hugely beneficial to be curious and want to continue to learn. The brilliant part of this is that you can choose your subject. It could just be falling into a Wikipedia clickhole and discovering a new passion, but always keep your mind open to new information to get the best out of life.

 

Growing Pains

Are you feeling conflicted at the moment? Like you don’t understand yourself anymore?  One minute you seem to be happy and calm, the next you are blowing off in an angry rage?  Maybe you have fallen out with a friend recently and you aren’t sure what you have done.  

Growing up is so tough.  When you become a parent you tend to get lost in how tough parenting is and forget what it was like to be going through so many hormonal changes, experiencing your first heart breaks, the pressure to work hard at school.  Adults can pretty quickly dismiss the issues you are going through and can make you feel that something which matters to you is really small.  

They don’t mean it, it’s just that they have so many issues going on that in their mind, having a friend who has fallen out with you, is really not a big deal.  Compared with having to pay for the house, or losing your job.  The problem is though is that it is all relative.  You don’t have to deal with the problems your parents do, your time will come, so currently the problems you are experiencing matter as much to you, as the problems your parents face.  So don’t feel guilty, or that your problems and worries don’t matter.  Because they do.  Don’t be angry at your parents either, they don’t mean to forget what it was like being a teen.

So how can you help yourself through your teenage years?  Firstly there are some mind blowing self development books which you can read.  These could help you become more aware of who you are and help you to focus your mind on problem solving.  Which is going to help you a lot over the next few years.  Of course The Bible is the best self development book out there! There are other ways though, to get through your issues and help make peace with yourself.  So let’s take a look at a few.

Firstly, the sisterhood is really important.  Your female friends understand exactly what you are going through on a day to day basis.  No matter how good the boys are, they just won’t get the hormones.  Sorry girls.  The sisterhood is also important because you understand what it is like to feel most of the emotions other girls are going through.  You get that no matter what anyone says, you feel too fat or too skinny.  You know what it is like to stand in the dressing room and feel worried about getting changed.  You know how hard it is to walk past the confident girls, because even if you are seen as one of them, you aren’t really.  Not all the time.  

Stand by your fellow females.  Don’t judge them or make fun of them.  You need to build them up so if you see another girl struggling, go to her aid.  Don’t bully other girls and if you see another girl being bullied, stand up.  Always.  Do not be afraid.  Too many girls turn the other way because they don’t want to get involved.  Do get involved.  

Don’t ignore the boys though, yes we need to stick together but that shouldn’t mean standing up against men.  It means working with them.  We have a slightly easier time of it that boys because girls tend to talk their feelings over more.  So get with the boys and help them talk a little more too.  You will discover a lot more about yourself when you hear a boy talking about girls.  You might even realize what it is that matters to boys.  Because it certainly isn’t the things you worry about.

Understand your parents and talk to them.  You want their respect and honesty, so give them yours.  Yes, ok parents can be pretty uncool when it comes to some matters but the truth is, they have been through almost every single emotion you are going through.  It might be tough to bring up your innermost thoughts with your mum, but trust us, she is going to drop everything to help you.  You might have to be a little persistent.  Sometimes parents need to be really stopped and told “this is important” before they really acknowledge it.  Parents have buzzwords which will get their attention.  Such as ‘help’ and ‘I’m scared’ or ‘I really need you’ these phrases are unignorable by most moms and dads.  So think of them like a computer that needs programming. Say the right words and they will listen.

Whatever you are feeling, talking is always the best way forward.  So do it.  Talk and keep talking.