Do you facebook stalk as much as we do?

Gray, 15, Charlotte, NC. “Not really. The only reason I have my facebook is to keep up with friends and events. I mean it’s cool if a girl ‘stalks’ me, but I’m not on facebook 24/7 checking up on people. I hardly ever look at other peoples’ pages.”

What is with the lack of hygiene?

Andrew Shuester, 20, Kernersville, NC. “Hey, I resent that. I smell great. No, really, I just don’t wake up and think ‘Oh, I’m going to class. I need to look my best.’ On the other hand, I enjoy looking nice. So usually if I’m not kempt and looking fly, it’s because I didn’t have time or had better things to do.”

Intelligence or Looks?

Jeff St. John, 21, Charlotte, NC. “I definitely like smart girls. But I’m not going to lie. Looks matter. I don’t think I’m shallow, but I like pretty girls, too. I guess in the end, intelligence reigns. I don’t want to introduce a girl to my mom who can’t keep up a conversation, even if she is gorgeous.”

Most girls are attached to their phones. If a guy doesn’t text you back, is it possible he just doesn’t have his phone?

Stephen, 18. “I never have my phone with me. I hate it when my girlfriend gets mad at me because I don’t have it, but sometimes I just don’t want to carry it around. And it isn’t because I don’t want to talk to you.”

Why can’t you just tell me what you’re feeling?

Henry, 17, New York. “Most guys don’t wear their hearts on their sleeves. Gender stereotypes suck, but it’s lame if a guy is overly emotional. When I really get to know a girl, I tend to open up more, but it’s hard to just say everything I’m feeling.”

What if I’m shy? How can I get your attention without looking desperate?

Jamie Wheeler, 19. “I personally don’t like over the top girls. They are just doing it to get attention. If a girl is nice and confident, I’ll notice them. They don’t have to throw themselves at me for me to see them. That is a real turn off.”

Technology has taken over our world. Ask anyone when the last time he or she checked Facebook or text messaging inboxes. The answer will generally be “Oh, ten minutes ago.”

But have social networks and the instant ability to get in touch with someone changed the way relationships work? Have they taken all the magic out of a letter?

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As I was watching “The Notebook” yesterday, I came to a stunning realization. Noah, the handsome, mysterious male lead, falls madly in love with stubborn, beautiful Allie. After her scheming mother cruelly separates them, Noah writes her 365 letters every day for a year. What if this happened today? Would Noah exclaim, “I wrote on your Facebook wall every day for a year!”? Or maybe “I left you 365 voice mails!” Either way, it isn’t nearly as romantic.

Nowadays, text messaging is used as a way of getting to know a person. “I usually text them more in the beginning and as I get to know them I will build up to a phone call. Texting is a good, informal way to talk to them without it being obvious that you like them,” Mark Kemp, 20, from Kernersville, NC, said.

Your private life is no longer private! Facebook rules the world, especially in high school and college. A new relationship is not real until it is “Facebook official.”

“I started dating this boy, but no one believed it was legit because it wasn’t on Facebook,” Claire, 18, from Phoenix, Arizona said. Every virtual move you make, other people can see it. Whether or not this is a good or bad thing is up to you. But no one can deny that has had a severe impact on relationships.

Think about your day-to-day life. How much time do you waste waiting for a cute boy to text you back? Do you agonize over what to text him back? You aren’t alone.

“Text messaging just makes things more difficult. I have to think of something creative and witty to say back to his messages. It’s stressful. Why can’t we just talk in person,” Claire said.

Girls aren’t the only ones fretting over technology’s involvement in relationships. “Technology has taken away from the “face-time” that you get with someone that you like because now you can easily replace a phone call with a quick text message. I kind of wish texting wasn’t an option because I would much rather talk to a girl that I like on the phone,” said Mark.

Other forms of technology besides cell phones and social networks have also influenced the dating scene. One of the most popular date ideas is a movie. Usually, this date occurs in the beginning of the relationship, mainly to avoid that awkwardness that comes with a new significant other while you try and get to know them. But isn’t that awkwardness necessary? Many couples spend all their time trying to avoid face-to-face contact with someone they’re dating until they can have a real conversation without blushing. They use technology to ease them into the relationship comfortably.

But how is this teaching us how to communicate healthily and effectively?

“If you go to a movie for a date, you don’t get to have any real conversation with them because all of your time is spent watching the movie. If you take a girl to a place where it is just the two of you, then you are able to have a conversation without people shushing you or throwing popcorn at you,” said Mark.

Embrace the awkwardness of the first date. Turn your phone off next time you’re with a cute boy. Keep your Facebook stalkers guessing about your relationship status. Don’t let technology take over your life!

What about how technology has affected safety?

Workplace: First of all, the job that you have been given and hired for is the main responsibility. The initial step for balance in the workplace is keeping up with priorities and to carry out with the job description.

Choosing Friends:. The type of friends that you choose at the work place can have either a negative or positive effect. There are many characteristics that we look for while choosing friends, but probably the most important one is that you trust one another.

Technology: The use of personal devises such as texting, going on twitter, Pandora, etc., can lead to a slippery slope for personal losses or even the end of your job.

Private Information: Sending, receiving and the distribution of confidential information, personal or relating to work, must be kept private by all groups involved, as it can cause severe legal consequences if confidentiality is not maintained.

Drama: The choice to join any kind of drama or gossip can lead to confrontation and have an unpleasing result.

These previous steps will help avoid any kind of loss of friendships, personal troubles, and the avoidance of a lawsuit that may or may not be included in your insurance policy. There are sets of state laws that are specifically for the workplace and if you are breaking them or are unaware of these, it may cause you a disastrous effect on your personal assets.

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For kids and young adults both, it’s a good way to in a sense “say” what you want without having to actually say it. This allows teens both male and female to avoid awkward situations with the other sex such as asking them out on a date(starting a relationship- scaredy cat) or breaking up with them(ending the relationship-a real jerk) along with all the other awkward moments found in between.

A question that I’m sure many teenage girls have while texting a guy is “How do I tell if he likes me or just isn’t interested?” A very obvious but often complicated solution to this very common problem would be to bluntly ask the guy if he is interested in you. This causes problems for many girls because they may not feel comfortable asking such an important question either because they are very shy or just afraid of what the answer may turn out to be. One thing that girls may not understand is that guys are in the exact same situation and are just as scared as you are when it comes to asking these types of questions even over texting! So is there any way that a teenage girl can determine whether a guy is interested just in the way that he texts?

I believe that, yes, there are a few ways through a guy’s texting that can help a girl to answer this very interesting question:

First Sign

If a guy puts any sort of smiley faces (especially the winky face ;) ) he usually wants to be either your boyfriend or is at least interested in you.

Second Sign

Asking questions about your family or other personal issues also indicates that a boy may be interested. 

Third Sign 

If a guy is the first to text you or texts you often, he may just want to date you.

Fourth Sign

Laughing at things that wouldn’t normally be funny is another great way to answer this question.

Fifth Sign

Responding to texts very quickly shows a guy is really interested in the conversation and wants to keep talking.

On the other hand, there are also a few ways to determine if a guy is just not interested in dating you:

First Bad Sign

One word answers (i.e ya, okay, haha) that are an attempt to end the conversation are usually a good indicator that a boy doesn’t want to date.

Second Bad Sign

Responding very slowly to text messages or not responding at all shows that a guy doesn’t really want to be talking to you (as bad as that sounds).

I really hope this helps you girls to understand more about texting the opposite sex and how it really isn’t as complicated as one might think. If you have questions you want to ask me or ideas for future articles shoot an email to thescene@relatemag.com and I’ll be able to address them in my upcoming blogs. Happy texting!!!

-Zack

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